tryst type
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 13, 2007
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She's been 6 months clean. Should I stay clear?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Can you say AIDS?tryst type said:She's been 6 months clean. Should I stay clear?
Ever watch Requiem For A Dream?tryst type said:She's been 6 months clean. Should I stay clear?
expos said:Ever watch Requiem For A Dream?
Do you ever think what this girl must have done to obtain the junk?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
backbreaker said:i clean addict if they are working a program is one of the best dates you will ever find. women in NA generally have their **** in order moreso than avg women if they are doing what they are supposed to do.
This is fvcking retarded.backbreaker said:i clean addict if they are working a program is one of the best dates you will ever find. women in NA generally have their **** in order moreso than avg women if they are doing what they are supposed to do.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She seemed cool and we were hitting it off pretty well, which is why she felt she should be honest about her past.Slickster said:There HAS to be better options Tryst.
Why bother?
really?tryst type said:She seemed cool and we were hitting it off pretty well, which is why she felt she should be honest about her past.
She says it was after a breakup and it was because she was young and depressed.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
tryst type said:Could you explain why?
if you end up with her have her tested for stds.Bokanovsky said:Can you say AIDS?
Well yeah, but how is anyone going to pull this off?visions said:if you end up with her have her tested for stds.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.