SheepDogOne
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My frame so far: Overconfident jerk, teasing etc. So looking for a good response to her message that doesn't appear to keen. Or is this a beta trap? Help.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Girl I've been chasing turns tables and asks me out - don't want loose frame
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Who Dares Win
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Provide more info pls, like age and time you know each other, where and how.
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I'm 44, she's early 30's (HB7). Met 3x times socially with friends over past two weeks. Last time we met up one of her friends was playing very heavy ****blocker.. But when I can get her away from her friends everything going well at building attraction, she gives very strong IOI's... 4 days after that she sends message on FB saying "Hey come next wed to forro at ipanema" (brazilian dance night at local club)...Who Dares Win said:
Gro0ver
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How about just saying "sure, see you there".
You don't need to do the whole ****y/funny thing all the time, it's good to show a genuine side as well. Sometimes sosuave/PUA crap can get in your head and make you think you need to be an actor all the time to keep women interested. You've already showed her that you're strong and valuable and her IL is obviously high, no need to overdo it, she's not gonna do a 180 if she figures out you've got a nice side to you as well.
Your next concern is charming her friends and getting them onside. This might require a slightly different approach.
You don't need to do the whole ****y/funny thing all the time, it's good to show a genuine side as well. Sometimes sosuave/PUA crap can get in your head and make you think you need to be an actor all the time to keep women interested. You've already showed her that you're strong and valuable and her IL is obviously high, no need to overdo it, she's not gonna do a 180 if she figures out you've got a nice side to you as well.
Your next concern is charming her friends and getting them onside. This might require a slightly different approach.
SheepDogOne
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Good advice, thanks. Will give it a shot.Gro0ver said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.