SheepDogOne
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My frame so far: Overconfident jerk, teasing etc. So looking for a good response to her message that doesn't appear to keen. Or is this a beta trap? Help.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Girl I've been chasing turns tables and asks me out - don't want loose frame
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Who Dares Win
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Provide more info pls, like age and time you know each other, where and how.
SheepDogOne
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I'm 44, she's early 30's (HB7). Met 3x times socially with friends over past two weeks. Last time we met up one of her friends was playing very heavy ****blocker.. But when I can get her away from her friends everything going well at building attraction, she gives very strong IOI's... 4 days after that she sends message on FB saying "Hey come next wed to forro at ipanema" (brazilian dance night at local club)...Who Dares Win said:
Gro0ver
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How about just saying "sure, see you there".
You don't need to do the whole ****y/funny thing all the time, it's good to show a genuine side as well. Sometimes sosuave/PUA crap can get in your head and make you think you need to be an actor all the time to keep women interested. You've already showed her that you're strong and valuable and her IL is obviously high, no need to overdo it, she's not gonna do a 180 if she figures out you've got a nice side to you as well.
Your next concern is charming her friends and getting them onside. This might require a slightly different approach.
You don't need to do the whole ****y/funny thing all the time, it's good to show a genuine side as well. Sometimes sosuave/PUA crap can get in your head and make you think you need to be an actor all the time to keep women interested. You've already showed her that you're strong and valuable and her IL is obviously high, no need to overdo it, she's not gonna do a 180 if she figures out you've got a nice side to you as well.
Your next concern is charming her friends and getting them onside. This might require a slightly different approach.
SheepDogOne
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Good advice, thanks. Will give it a shot.Gro0ver said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.