"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl is "dating"

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i asked this chick if she's married, taken, single and she replied with "i'm dating"... (i manage to get her number)

soo, dating...meaning, she's ... willing to date other guys?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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yes.

girls are always spinning plates.

i think you've just become one :up: congrats. lol
 

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She said she is dating. She didn't say she had a boyfriend. So, looks like open game for you.
 

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That translates to Im looking for someone to date.
 

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ahh thankx. So i called her up today (wednesday). asked for a date for next tuesday to go bowling and she said she'll definitely go if she's not working. We'll see.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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verysuave said:
ahh thankx. So i called her up today (wednesday). asked for a date for next tuesday to go bowling and she said she'll definitely go if she's not working. We'll see.
Try for solid commitments when you ask a girl out. Don't settle for "I'll let you know" or "I'll call you that day." In this case it may be harder since she might have work, but when does she find out what times she works for the week? If she doesn't know until say Sunday, you can still just be like "okay, well I can't guarantee I won't have made other plans by then" in a half-joking way.
 

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okay, its monday now, she hasn't called told me what her schedule is.

Don't text and call? NEXT?
 

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don't ask her that. assume she is available.
 

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so, i asked her out wednesday of last week..to hang out next tuesday

it was tuesday 2 days ago but i haven't called nor texted her since last wednesday to confirm the date since some crap came up and i didnt have time myself...

yesterday i get a text from her saying "hey,sorry about tuesday, i was super busy and had school, maybe some other time"

how should i respond (I haven't responded yet) or not respond at all?

if i do respond should i say:

#1 "that's okay, it doesn't matter to me"
#2 "yeah and maybe i might give you a 2nd chance =)
#3 "i only ask once

help, tnx
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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verysuave said:
so, i asked her out wednesday of last week..to hang out next tuesday

it was tuesday 2 days ago but i haven't called nor texted her since last wednesday to confirm the date since some crap came up and i didnt have time myself...

yesterday i get a text from her saying "hey,sorry about tuesday, i was super busy and had school, maybe some other time"

how should i respond (I haven't responded yet) or not respond at all?

if i do respond should i say:

#1 "that's okay, it doesn't matter to me"
#2 "yeah and maybe i might give you a 2nd chance =)
#3 "i only ask once

help, tnx
I think that something along the lines of "It's ok, but you're gonna have to make it up to me somehow ;)" is enough in your situation.
 

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okay, UPDATE!

last night chick texts me about 12 hours ago, and didnt receive her mssge till this morning

in the text it says:

"hi verysuave, what days do you have off this week?"

LOL...

okay, okay, im gona leave it to the experts here as to how i should respond.

And this week, i do have friday and saturday off.

No, seriously,should I just say "yeah got saturday off" ? or just make up a lie and say, i'll be away for the weekend, however we can hang out next week?

tnx



drtk said:
I think that something along the lines of "It's ok, but you're gonna have to make it up to me somehow ;)" is enough in your situation.
 

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im thinking mabe like

"im off this saturday.. but, you are probably busy this weekend"
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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coolf1r3 said:
Chase her, you animal, you.
okay this is how it went down

there was a 30 minute gap in between texts with me
hb: "hi verysuave, what days do you have off this week?"
me: "so, whatcha doing this weekend?" (i decided not to tell her what im doing...but instead I turned it around, cuz its MY turn to test her to see h
hb: "im working this weekedn =("
me: "hey, im working this weekend too! but elsewhere =)" (i've decided that, im not gona ask her out anymore since i already did that once. and already showed my interest)

I KNEW for a fact that that was a shiet test when she asked me "hi verysuave, got any days off this week?" IM STARTING TO NOTICE that when women asks you questions like that, it doesn't mean THEY ARE ASKING YOU TO HANG OUT WITH THEM YET or a sign for you to ASK THEM OUT, they are simply asking if you have a "DAY OFF" and nothing else.. it's like some kinda trick question these women try to pull. so she responds with

hb: "yeah, let me know what your days off u have next week and i'll make plans"


CHA CHING!
 

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would leonadis from 300 chase women? ask for sex? NO. I'm noticing the trolls on this board
 

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What I would do is make it seem like you are busy,but you have a "little" time available. Kind of like a "limited time only" sale. You have Saturday off,right? So say something like this,"Well,I do have Saturday off,but I have plans to (whatever),but I should be finished around 6 or 7 o'clock. This makes it seem like you have a life,you have friends and other things going on in you life,and if she wants to be a part of it,here is a small window of time she can use. However,if she chooses not to,she might have to wait another week or two before you might have more free time.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
She said she is dating. She didn't say she had a boyfriend. So, looks like open game for you.
Most likely, that's correct.
 
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