"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girl is "dating"
- Thread starter verysuave
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
Try for solid commitments when you ask a girl out. Don't settle for "I'll let you know" or "I'll call you that day." In this case it may be harder since she might have work, but when does she find out what times she works for the week? If she doesn't know until say Sunday, you can still just be like "okay, well I can't guarantee I won't have made other plans by then" in a half-joking way.verysuave said:
it was tuesday 2 days ago but i haven't called nor texted her since last wednesday to confirm the date since some crap came up and i didnt have time myself...
yesterday i get a text from her saying "hey,sorry about tuesday, i was super busy and had school, maybe some other time"
how should i respond (I haven't responded yet) or not respond at all?
if i do respond should i say:
#1 "that's okay, it doesn't matter to me"
#2 "yeah and maybe i might give you a 2nd chance =)
#3 "i only ask once
help, tnx
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
last night chick texts me about 12 hours ago, and didnt receive her mssge till this morning
in the text it says:
"hi verysuave, what days do you have off this week?"
LOL...
okay, okay, im gona leave it to the experts here as to how i should respond.
And this week, i do have friday and saturday off.
No, seriously,should I just say "yeah got saturday off" ? or just make up a lie and say, i'll be away for the weekend, however we can hang out next week?
tnx
drtk said:I think that something along the lines of "It's ok, but you're gonna have to make it up to me somehow" is enough in your situation.
coolf1r3
Don Juan
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
okay this is how it went downcoolf1r3 said:
there was a 30 minute gap in between texts with me
hb: "hi verysuave, what days do you have off this week?"
me: "so, whatcha doing this weekend?" (i decided not to tell her what im doing...but instead I turned it around, cuz its MY turn to test her to see h
hb: "im working this weekedn =("
me: "hey, im working this weekend too! but elsewhere =)" (i've decided that, im not gona ask her out anymore since i already did that once. and already showed my interest)
I KNEW for a fact that that was a shiet test when she asked me "hi verysuave, got any days off this week?" IM STARTING TO NOTICE that when women asks you questions like that, it doesn't mean THEY ARE ASKING YOU TO HANG OUT WITH THEM YET or a sign for you to ASK THEM OUT, they are simply asking if you have a "DAY OFF" and nothing else.. it's like some kinda trick question these women try to pull. so she responds with
hb: "yeah, let me know what your days off u have next week and i'll make plans"
CHA CHING!
Igetit!
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tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Most likely, that's correct.I.A.F.Y.B. said: