Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Girl is "dating"
- Thread starter verysuave
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
Try for solid commitments when you ask a girl out. Don't settle for "I'll let you know" or "I'll call you that day." In this case it may be harder since she might have work, but when does she find out what times she works for the week? If she doesn't know until say Sunday, you can still just be like "okay, well I can't guarantee I won't have made other plans by then" in a half-joking way.verysuave said:
it was tuesday 2 days ago but i haven't called nor texted her since last wednesday to confirm the date since some crap came up and i didnt have time myself...
yesterday i get a text from her saying "hey,sorry about tuesday, i was super busy and had school, maybe some other time"
how should i respond (I haven't responded yet) or not respond at all?
if i do respond should i say:
#1 "that's okay, it doesn't matter to me"
#2 "yeah and maybe i might give you a 2nd chance =)
#3 "i only ask once
help, tnx
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
last night chick texts me about 12 hours ago, and didnt receive her mssge till this morning
in the text it says:
"hi verysuave, what days do you have off this week?"
LOL...
okay, okay, im gona leave it to the experts here as to how i should respond.
And this week, i do have friday and saturday off.
No, seriously,should I just say "yeah got saturday off" ? or just make up a lie and say, i'll be away for the weekend, however we can hang out next week?
tnx
drtk said:I think that something along the lines of "It's ok, but you're gonna have to make it up to me somehow" is enough in your situation.
coolf1r3
Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
okay this is how it went downcoolf1r3 said:
there was a 30 minute gap in between texts with me
hb: "hi verysuave, what days do you have off this week?"
me: "so, whatcha doing this weekend?" (i decided not to tell her what im doing...but instead I turned it around, cuz its MY turn to test her to see h
hb: "im working this weekedn =("
me: "hey, im working this weekend too! but elsewhere =)" (i've decided that, im not gona ask her out anymore since i already did that once. and already showed my interest)
I KNEW for a fact that that was a shiet test when she asked me "hi verysuave, got any days off this week?" IM STARTING TO NOTICE that when women asks you questions like that, it doesn't mean THEY ARE ASKING YOU TO HANG OUT WITH THEM YET or a sign for you to ASK THEM OUT, they are simply asking if you have a "DAY OFF" and nothing else.. it's like some kinda trick question these women try to pull. so she responds with
hb: "yeah, let me know what your days off u have next week and i'll make plans"
CHA CHING!
Igetit!
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tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Most likely, that's correct.I.A.F.Y.B. said: