"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Girl I'm seeing called me out for living with parents....
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
As long as your finances and status doesn't pass where they chose to "rest at". A lot of folk are good at "holding position". They crab everything downward around and near them to keep their spot. They suck at growth because it's uncomfortable, and they are entitled and think they are doing great. This is what "pass them up" means.
You will find as you are doing very good and making a lot of progress, these types of peoples "attacks" increase and are often "illogical", but it's perfectly logical if you understand how they think.
noticed that
Something I did not understand in past because some of these folks looks like your natural allies until you start to recognize agression in their behavior.. your perspective on ppl changes, and on your self as well
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
If you "lay down" and act like you used to they will not attack you anymore. But in effect you are backing up from all of your progress and increase, and giving them power over you in the process.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
So looking from that perspective growth is not something you do and then you'd be enough. This what would do the majority of ppl. Growth in that meaning is continues state of mind
But you needa feel enough already not regarding your growth process, otherwise growth would be result of feeling continues incompleteness with yourself
Yeah I thinking about that recently myself alot, just knowing my mom I'm afraid she'd do some stuff that would make me to feel guilt, or maybe I just worry for no reason
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You need to know you are more than enough, but continued growth and learning might be a lifestyle that you chose for yourself.
This is a good stone
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.