You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How old are you, Vlad?MacAvoy said:I realize that txting is a big part of your game but I think you need to avoid getting into the how's your day, I'm bored at work convos with women.
I think its time for you to sh1t or get off the pot with this women. Either move on, and stop reliving drama or ask her out if you don't think she's boring.
However you place to much value on women. However your young and its not the end of the world but right now women control your happiness. Its something that you eventually need to work on. But enjoy yourself in the interim.
Theres nothing wrong with being young, dumb, & full of cumm. Experience as much women as you can while your young. But try to be smart about it. Don't chase your tail.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I need to get used to dating multiple women. I'm no good at it. My mind is preoccupied with Wal-Mart girl right now so I have no interest in taking this one out.MacAvoy said:I realize that txting is a big part of your game but I think you need to avoid getting into the how's your day, I'm bored at work convos with women.
I think its time for you to sh1t or get off the pot with this women. Either move on, and stop reliving drama or ask her out if you don't think she's boring.
However you place to much value on women. However your young and its not the end of the world but right now women control your happiness. Its something that you eventually need to work on. But enjoy yourself in the interim.
Theres nothing wrong with being young, dumb, & full of cumm. Experience as much women as you can while your young. But try to be smart about it. Don't chase your tail.
DonS said:LOL, you have to get used to having sex with multiple women during the week? Trust me, there ain't much to get used to. Just lean back and enjoy.
Vlad the Impaler said:I'm not available during the week. The weekend is the only time I have and I fill those up with women I am actually interested in.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ARrocket said:What happened with this one?
Pay attention to that. Chalk that one up in your memory for later, because the next time a girl says to you "I've been busy", you will now know that that means "I don't want to see you again" in girlspeak.Vlad the Impaler said:So today she sent me 3 texts so I finally started replying with vague answers like "i've been busy".. things like that. She just texted me "so you don't want to see me again?"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The Bat said:This girl is real needy, Vlad. I'd reply back with one final e-mail and say, "You should have moved on by now. Stop contacting me because it should be obvious to you by now that I want nothing to do with you. Good luck in your future endeavors."
It has a good balance of harshness and pointing out what she did (or is doing) wrong.
After this, you know she is going to e-mail you back apologizing or justifying her behavior. When she does that, just delete it and don't reply back again. If she continues sending e-mail, just put her e-mail address in Spam, and delete her number from your phone.
She will eventually give up.
Hopefully.
Then there's always a threat of restraining order. Lol.
The Bat said:This girl is real needy, Vlad. I'd reply back with one final e-mail and say, "You should have moved on by now. Stop contacting me because it should be obvious to you by now that I want nothing to do with you. Good luck in your future endeavors."
It has a good balance of harshness and pointing out what she did (or is doing) wrong.
After this, you know she is going to e-mail you back apologizing or justifying her behavior. When she does that, just delete it and don't reply back again. If she continues sending e-mail, just put her e-mail address in Spam, and delete her number from your phone.
She will eventually give up.
Hopefully.
Then there's always a threat of restraining order. Lol.
To me, the very fact that your asking "what should I do??" means that you shouldn't have sent a message like that. But, MacAvoy hit the nail on the head....if you try to apologize, you've lost. If you just leave it at that....it's over, but you won't hear from her again. Doesn't seem like that's what you really want. So I hope you asked her outMacAvoy said:You need to learn to just walk away. Your like a little DQ but I find it entertaining how your willing to send whatever we suggest. Your adventurous anyway. I like that.
But there can come nothing good come of this. But here is what I would send if I were you.
"I'm sorry, let me make it up to you by taking you out for a drink on XXX-day."
And just leave it at that. You got her riled up, you've built some tension and see if it translates to a good old fashion anger bang. But keep it short, keep her intrigued. Only accept a yes or no answer. I think your 50/50 and if you get the date, I think your definately in her panties.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.