I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How old are you, Vlad?MacAvoy said:I realize that txting is a big part of your game but I think you need to avoid getting into the how's your day, I'm bored at work convos with women.
I think its time for you to sh1t or get off the pot with this women. Either move on, and stop reliving drama or ask her out if you don't think she's boring.
However you place to much value on women. However your young and its not the end of the world but right now women control your happiness. Its something that you eventually need to work on. But enjoy yourself in the interim.
Theres nothing wrong with being young, dumb, & full of cumm. Experience as much women as you can while your young. But try to be smart about it. Don't chase your tail.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I need to get used to dating multiple women. I'm no good at it. My mind is preoccupied with Wal-Mart girl right now so I have no interest in taking this one out.MacAvoy said:I realize that txting is a big part of your game but I think you need to avoid getting into the how's your day, I'm bored at work convos with women.
I think its time for you to sh1t or get off the pot with this women. Either move on, and stop reliving drama or ask her out if you don't think she's boring.
However you place to much value on women. However your young and its not the end of the world but right now women control your happiness. Its something that you eventually need to work on. But enjoy yourself in the interim.
Theres nothing wrong with being young, dumb, & full of cumm. Experience as much women as you can while your young. But try to be smart about it. Don't chase your tail.
DonS said:LOL, you have to get used to having sex with multiple women during the week? Trust me, there ain't much to get used to. Just lean back and enjoy.
Vlad the Impaler said:I'm not available during the week. The weekend is the only time I have and I fill those up with women I am actually interested in.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ARrocket said:What happened with this one?
Pay attention to that. Chalk that one up in your memory for later, because the next time a girl says to you "I've been busy", you will now know that that means "I don't want to see you again" in girlspeak.Vlad the Impaler said:So today she sent me 3 texts so I finally started replying with vague answers like "i've been busy".. things like that. She just texted me "so you don't want to see me again?"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The Bat said:This girl is real needy, Vlad. I'd reply back with one final e-mail and say, "You should have moved on by now. Stop contacting me because it should be obvious to you by now that I want nothing to do with you. Good luck in your future endeavors."
It has a good balance of harshness and pointing out what she did (or is doing) wrong.
After this, you know she is going to e-mail you back apologizing or justifying her behavior. When she does that, just delete it and don't reply back again. If she continues sending e-mail, just put her e-mail address in Spam, and delete her number from your phone.
She will eventually give up.
Hopefully.
Then there's always a threat of restraining order. Lol.
The Bat said:This girl is real needy, Vlad. I'd reply back with one final e-mail and say, "You should have moved on by now. Stop contacting me because it should be obvious to you by now that I want nothing to do with you. Good luck in your future endeavors."
It has a good balance of harshness and pointing out what she did (or is doing) wrong.
After this, you know she is going to e-mail you back apologizing or justifying her behavior. When she does that, just delete it and don't reply back again. If she continues sending e-mail, just put her e-mail address in Spam, and delete her number from your phone.
She will eventually give up.
Hopefully.
Then there's always a threat of restraining order. Lol.
To me, the very fact that your asking "what should I do??" means that you shouldn't have sent a message like that. But, MacAvoy hit the nail on the head....if you try to apologize, you've lost. If you just leave it at that....it's over, but you won't hear from her again. Doesn't seem like that's what you really want. So I hope you asked her outMacAvoy said:You need to learn to just walk away. Your like a little DQ but I find it entertaining how your willing to send whatever we suggest. Your adventurous anyway. I like that.
But there can come nothing good come of this. But here is what I would send if I were you.
"I'm sorry, let me make it up to you by taking you out for a drink on XXX-day."
And just leave it at that. You got her riled up, you've built some tension and see if it translates to a good old fashion anger bang. But keep it short, keep her intrigued. Only accept a yes or no answer. I think your 50/50 and if you get the date, I think your definately in her panties.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.