She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How old are you, Vlad?MacAvoy said:I realize that txting is a big part of your game but I think you need to avoid getting into the how's your day, I'm bored at work convos with women.
I think its time for you to sh1t or get off the pot with this women. Either move on, and stop reliving drama or ask her out if you don't think she's boring.
However you place to much value on women. However your young and its not the end of the world but right now women control your happiness. Its something that you eventually need to work on. But enjoy yourself in the interim.
Theres nothing wrong with being young, dumb, & full of cumm. Experience as much women as you can while your young. But try to be smart about it. Don't chase your tail.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I need to get used to dating multiple women. I'm no good at it. My mind is preoccupied with Wal-Mart girl right now so I have no interest in taking this one out.MacAvoy said:I realize that txting is a big part of your game but I think you need to avoid getting into the how's your day, I'm bored at work convos with women.
I think its time for you to sh1t or get off the pot with this women. Either move on, and stop reliving drama or ask her out if you don't think she's boring.
However you place to much value on women. However your young and its not the end of the world but right now women control your happiness. Its something that you eventually need to work on. But enjoy yourself in the interim.
Theres nothing wrong with being young, dumb, & full of cumm. Experience as much women as you can while your young. But try to be smart about it. Don't chase your tail.
DonS said:LOL, you have to get used to having sex with multiple women during the week? Trust me, there ain't much to get used to. Just lean back and enjoy.
Vlad the Impaler said:I'm not available during the week. The weekend is the only time I have and I fill those up with women I am actually interested in.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ARrocket said:What happened with this one?
Pay attention to that. Chalk that one up in your memory for later, because the next time a girl says to you "I've been busy", you will now know that that means "I don't want to see you again" in girlspeak.Vlad the Impaler said:So today she sent me 3 texts so I finally started replying with vague answers like "i've been busy".. things like that. She just texted me "so you don't want to see me again?"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The Bat said:This girl is real needy, Vlad. I'd reply back with one final e-mail and say, "You should have moved on by now. Stop contacting me because it should be obvious to you by now that I want nothing to do with you. Good luck in your future endeavors."
It has a good balance of harshness and pointing out what she did (or is doing) wrong.
After this, you know she is going to e-mail you back apologizing or justifying her behavior. When she does that, just delete it and don't reply back again. If she continues sending e-mail, just put her e-mail address in Spam, and delete her number from your phone.
She will eventually give up.
Hopefully.
Then there's always a threat of restraining order. Lol.
The Bat said:This girl is real needy, Vlad. I'd reply back with one final e-mail and say, "You should have moved on by now. Stop contacting me because it should be obvious to you by now that I want nothing to do with you. Good luck in your future endeavors."
It has a good balance of harshness and pointing out what she did (or is doing) wrong.
After this, you know she is going to e-mail you back apologizing or justifying her behavior. When she does that, just delete it and don't reply back again. If she continues sending e-mail, just put her e-mail address in Spam, and delete her number from your phone.
She will eventually give up.
Hopefully.
Then there's always a threat of restraining order. Lol.
To me, the very fact that your asking "what should I do??" means that you shouldn't have sent a message like that. But, MacAvoy hit the nail on the head....if you try to apologize, you've lost. If you just leave it at that....it's over, but you won't hear from her again. Doesn't seem like that's what you really want. So I hope you asked her outMacAvoy said:You need to learn to just walk away. Your like a little DQ but I find it entertaining how your willing to send whatever we suggest. Your adventurous anyway. I like that.
But there can come nothing good come of this. But here is what I would send if I were you.
"I'm sorry, let me make it up to you by taking you out for a drink on XXX-day."
And just leave it at that. You got her riled up, you've built some tension and see if it translates to a good old fashion anger bang. But keep it short, keep her intrigued. Only accept a yes or no answer. I think your 50/50 and if you get the date, I think your definately in her panties.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.