Mr. Delicious
Senior Don Juan
Should I bite and surprise her with something? If so, any suggestions?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Girl i am dating says she likes surprises
- Thread starter Mr. Delicious
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mr. Delicious
Senior Don Juan
if she was american i would fully agree with you. I forgot to mention she is chinese and based on my friends that have or are dating chinese girls they tell me you have to act completely different with them. They said being nice actually works. I know it sounds insane and blasphemous 
So i guess i am seeking out people who have dated chinese girls.
So i guess i am seeking out people who have dated chinese girls.Jerry Maguire
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surprise!
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Marriage papers!Mr. Delicious said:
Ha ha. Someone had the hiccups. Me, claiming to have a perfect cure, started of with this psychobabel hypno thing. Then I just yelled at her. Startled the heck out of her. There's your suprise.
boo!
Actually, you might consider something romantic, but only after a little while of dating. No grand gestures right away. Holidays (closer to christmas) might be an idea. Then she's not expecting a suprise (I hope not, anyway!)
It can be simple, but still fun. take her to a play, concert, or something she wanted to see, but don't tell her where you're taking her. Maybe you can even get some friends in on it.
But then, I'm pretty decent at knowing "little cuddly aaaaaaaaaaaww type things" to do with women.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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show her how to pick up chicks
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MooseGod
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stick it in her butt...then yell "SURPRISE!!!" :crackup:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.