BillyPilgrim
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The ghosting is being real, the fake/nice letdown is a power move. Bonus for her if you grovel and ask for explanation.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ghosting Is Out and Speed-Dumping Is In
- Thread starter Clockwerk50
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Duke
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The only time it mattered to me was when I didnt have any other options lined up. Put yourself in a position that you have multiple women you are talking to and you won't care if one of them flakes/ghosts/speed dumps you.
BackInTheGame78
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What difference does it make the way a woman tells you she isn't interested? The end result is still the same.
The Duke
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Only to those that are emotionally invested when they shouldn't be.