BillyPilgrim
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The ghosting is being real, the fake/nice letdown is a power move. Bonus for her if you grovel and ask for explanation.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Ghosting Is Out and Speed-Dumping Is In
- Thread starter Clockwerk50
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Duke
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The only time it mattered to me was when I didnt have any other options lined up. Put yourself in a position that you have multiple women you are talking to and you won't care if one of them flakes/ghosts/speed dumps you.
BackInTheGame78
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What difference does it make the way a woman tells you she isn't interested? The end result is still the same.
The Duke
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Only to those that are emotionally invested when they shouldn't be.