"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Getting the girl long distance

Atldude

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hey guys,

i have a thing for a girl outta town and don't know if she still has a thing for me.. it maybe because i am long distance and she's not sure about it.. so my plan is to call her up and ask her "if we want to give it a shot and not worry about the long distance... "

regards,

atldude
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Answers

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Just say you'll be in her area and does she want to meet up? Say it as if you're meeting somebody and you won't mind meeting up with her.. If she dosn't want to meet then you don't have to go.
 

Atldude

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current situation

i already met up and we met up for a group dinner with some other friends... she wanted to meet one-on-one but i couldn't handle the logistics... i want to take this to the next level, and have some sort of closure as far as moving forward or ending it once and for all... she's in college btw and graduates next april so that might be smthng to consider.. i'm 28. she's 22

thanks guys
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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jimmyjack

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longdistance relationship is good for me i like it cause i see her once in a week it gives me chance to meets other girls so try to invite her somewhere and don't talk about this longdistance thing except she talks about it.Try and go for a kiss,show her you love her flirt,touch her,you should be able to kiss her if you are having a great time.
 

jimmyjack

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you don't have to worry about this long distance relationship thing, if you really like her then go after her,i believe you want to be seeing her all the time men you have to know how to deal with her in this king of relationship cause it's difficult for you to see each other,which means she might be cheating on you and you too might be cheating on her but where have you been since all this days no body is posting messages on your tread for a long time now anyway if it's like that then it means you are with her having a nice time.good:cool:
 

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Long distance can only possibly work if you see each other at least once a week. Any less and its not worth hers or your time.
 
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