You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Adults do not drink breast milk and babies have physiologically ideal Apo-B levels. Even then, there is evidence that atherosclerosis actually begins in childhood. Also, all saturated fat isn’t created equal. Stearic acid in chocolate is more benign than saturated fat in butter and red meat. Either way, you are still better off with that avocado.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You simply have an incomplete understanding of how the body works and no amount of evidence will get you to have a better amount of understanding it seems so I'll let you do you.
How is it reductionist if high saturated fat in the diet is proven to raise serum Apo-B?
Probably because studies indicate a lower risk of CVD with saturated fats so there is a lot more at play than you simply ranting about a single thing endlessly.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Confounders? The consensus in cardiology is that there is causal relationship between serum Apo-B and atherosclerosis. And that saturated fat beyond a threshold (8-12% of total calories) impairs the livers ability to clear Apo-B from the blood. Do with that information what you’d like.