She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
good analogyjophil28 said:Look, it is difficult to know what is in any one particular woman's mind after a wuss outburst..What would be a deal breaker for one woman is just a mild blip to another. But know this, wuss behavior is always incompatible with dominant behavior.
I look at it this way - your actions before the insecurity ourbreak built up a masculine credit balance with her, like a savings account at the bank. Then one day you waste a little of that money on a wuss impulse, but you stiil have some left , OK?
GEnerally,the bigger the chump behavior, the bigger the withdrawal. IN the early days of a connection with a woman it is possible to blow all your savings quickly and wind up overdrawn ,in which case you are done. Or in the FZ.
IF I were you I would revert to doing what you did best in the first few weeks and build up your account again until it cancels out the wuss debit.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
hahah i love this analogyjophil28 said:Look, it is difficult to know what is in any one particular woman's mind after a wuss outburst..What would be a deal breaker for one woman is just a mild blip to another. But know this, wuss behavior is always incompatible with dominant behavior.
I look at it this way - your actions before the insecurity ourbreak built up a masculine credit balance with her, like a savings account at the bank. Then one day you waste a little of that money on a wuss impulse, but you stiil have some left , OK?
GEnerally,the bigger the chump behavior, the bigger the withdrawal. IN the early days of a connection with a woman it is possible to blow all your savings quickly and wind up overdrawn ,in which case you are done. Or in the FZ.
IF I were you I would revert to doing what you did best in the first few weeks and build up your account again until it cancels out the wuss debit.