You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
good analogyjophil28 said:Look, it is difficult to know what is in any one particular woman's mind after a wuss outburst..What would be a deal breaker for one woman is just a mild blip to another. But know this, wuss behavior is always incompatible with dominant behavior.
I look at it this way - your actions before the insecurity ourbreak built up a masculine credit balance with her, like a savings account at the bank. Then one day you waste a little of that money on a wuss impulse, but you stiil have some left , OK?
GEnerally,the bigger the chump behavior, the bigger the withdrawal. IN the early days of a connection with a woman it is possible to blow all your savings quickly and wind up overdrawn ,in which case you are done. Or in the FZ.
IF I were you I would revert to doing what you did best in the first few weeks and build up your account again until it cancels out the wuss debit.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
hahah i love this analogyjophil28 said:Look, it is difficult to know what is in any one particular woman's mind after a wuss outburst..What would be a deal breaker for one woman is just a mild blip to another. But know this, wuss behavior is always incompatible with dominant behavior.
I look at it this way - your actions before the insecurity ourbreak built up a masculine credit balance with her, like a savings account at the bank. Then one day you waste a little of that money on a wuss impulse, but you stiil have some left , OK?
GEnerally,the bigger the chump behavior, the bigger the withdrawal. IN the early days of a connection with a woman it is possible to blow all your savings quickly and wind up overdrawn ,in which case you are done. Or in the FZ.
IF I were you I would revert to doing what you did best in the first few weeks and build up your account again until it cancels out the wuss debit.