"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Gender and cheating

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Do you guys think men or women cheat more? Do you think gender is even significant, or do we cheat equally as often?

Personally, I know of more guys who have cheated, but my actual friends have gotten cheated on more than they've cheated. Hence the curiosity.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Depends on one’s definition of cheating.

Biologically speaking- cheating for men amounts to protecting and provisioning for another woman. For women, cheating amounts to allowing another man to have access to her body.

Modern society’s version of cheating implies that men and women are the same, thus should be sexually monogamous to each other. Biologically, this is perverted. Male mammalian species including our close primate cousins are not sexually monogamous and actually try to impregnate multiple females as a survival mating strategy.

I subscribe to the biological definition of cheating, meaning that women are far more likely to fvck another man, than a man is to assume financial stewardship over multiple wives. In fact, polygamy is illegal in most of the world. So the answer is that men rarely if ever cheat, and women cheat with alarming frequency.
 

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Studies vary greatly - some say it’s men by a large margin, some say it’s women, some say it’s even.

Everyone has an opinion.

I know when I came out of a marriage of 20 years that I was completely gobsmacked by the number of women that were married or in LTR’s that were ridiculously lays.

I think it’s even, although there are those women that are serial cheaters that will take it to the grave.
 

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Is a man fvcking another woman equal to a woman fvcking another man?
Depends on how you think about it.

For me? No, it isn't.

We also know that when a man cheats, the first thing a woman asks is "Do you love her?" and the first thing a man asks is "Did you fnck him?"

The answer is left as an exercise for the reader.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Studies vary greatly - some say it’s men by a large margin, some say it’s women, some say it’s even.

Everyone has an opinion.

I know when I came out of a marriage of 20 years that I was completely gobsmacked by the number of women that were married or in LTR’s that were ridiculously lays.

I think it’s even, although there are those women that are serial cheaters that will take it to the grave.
For clarity - ridiculous lays or ridiculously lazy?
 

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Depends on how you think about it.

For me? No, it isn't.

We also know that when a man cheats, the first thing a woman asks is "Do you love her?" and the first thing a man asks is "Did you fnck him?"

The answer is left as an exercise for the reader.
Yeah thats the same reason why a guy on tinder wonders how many guys banged her while she cares about his current job.

Ever seen a girl asking a guy about his body count or a guy looking for detailed answer about her job.
 

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Ever seen a girl asking a guy about his body count or a guy looking for detailed answer about her job.
I’ve encountered many women who are very interested in my body count, especially after I run them through.
 

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I’ve encountered many women who are very interested in my body count, especially after I run them through.
That's interesting, it never happened to me...wonder if cause I sucks or I'm good enough.

Most of them were concerned about me banging other women while we dated but none cared about my body count.

How did the conversation happen and what they asked excactly?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That's interesting, it never happened to me...wonder if cause I sucks or I'm good enough.

Most of them were concerned about me banging other women while we dated but none cared about my body count.

How did the conversation happen and what they asked excactly?
PM me
 

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We also know that when a man cheats, the first thing a woman asks is "Do you love her?" and the first thing a man asks is "Did you fnck him?"
Exactly.

Women care much more about a man's emotional cheating than physical. Men ONLY care about a woman's physical cheating.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Over the years, 80% OLD the balance social.
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Just like I’m sure you’ve wondered where a gal got her ridickulous bj or riding skills or some such. Then the mind wanders to “damn she must’ve seen more cawk than a urinal in Grand Central Station!” -
Same thing in reverse but articulated as “he must have a lot of experience.”
 
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