"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Gender and cheating

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Do you guys think men or women cheat more? Do you think gender is even significant, or do we cheat equally as often?

Personally, I know of more guys who have cheated, but my actual friends have gotten cheated on more than they've cheated. Hence the curiosity.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Depends on one’s definition of cheating.

Biologically speaking- cheating for men amounts to protecting and provisioning for another woman. For women, cheating amounts to allowing another man to have access to her body.

Modern society’s version of cheating implies that men and women are the same, thus should be sexually monogamous to each other. Biologically, this is perverted. Male mammalian species including our close primate cousins are not sexually monogamous and actually try to impregnate multiple females as a survival mating strategy.

I subscribe to the biological definition of cheating, meaning that women are far more likely to fvck another man, than a man is to assume financial stewardship over multiple wives. In fact, polygamy is illegal in most of the world. So the answer is that men rarely if ever cheat, and women cheat with alarming frequency.
 

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Studies vary greatly - some say it’s men by a large margin, some say it’s women, some say it’s even.

Everyone has an opinion.

I know when I came out of a marriage of 20 years that I was completely gobsmacked by the number of women that were married or in LTR’s that were ridiculously lays.

I think it’s even, although there are those women that are serial cheaters that will take it to the grave.
 

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Is a man fvcking another woman equal to a woman fvcking another man?
Depends on how you think about it.

For me? No, it isn't.

We also know that when a man cheats, the first thing a woman asks is "Do you love her?" and the first thing a man asks is "Did you fnck him?"

The answer is left as an exercise for the reader.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Studies vary greatly - some say it’s men by a large margin, some say it’s women, some say it’s even.

Everyone has an opinion.

I know when I came out of a marriage of 20 years that I was completely gobsmacked by the number of women that were married or in LTR’s that were ridiculously lays.

I think it’s even, although there are those women that are serial cheaters that will take it to the grave.
For clarity - ridiculous lays or ridiculously lazy?
 

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Depends on how you think about it.

For me? No, it isn't.

We also know that when a man cheats, the first thing a woman asks is "Do you love her?" and the first thing a man asks is "Did you fnck him?"

The answer is left as an exercise for the reader.
Yeah thats the same reason why a guy on tinder wonders how many guys banged her while she cares about his current job.

Ever seen a girl asking a guy about his body count or a guy looking for detailed answer about her job.
 

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Ever seen a girl asking a guy about his body count or a guy looking for detailed answer about her job.
I’ve encountered many women who are very interested in my body count, especially after I run them through.
 

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I’ve encountered many women who are very interested in my body count, especially after I run them through.
That's interesting, it never happened to me...wonder if cause I sucks or I'm good enough.

Most of them were concerned about me banging other women while we dated but none cared about my body count.

How did the conversation happen and what they asked excactly?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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That's interesting, it never happened to me...wonder if cause I sucks or I'm good enough.

Most of them were concerned about me banging other women while we dated but none cared about my body count.

How did the conversation happen and what they asked excactly?
PM me
 

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We also know that when a man cheats, the first thing a woman asks is "Do you love her?" and the first thing a man asks is "Did you fnck him?"
Exactly.

Women care much more about a man's emotional cheating than physical. Men ONLY care about a woman's physical cheating.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Over the years, 80% OLD the balance social.
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Just like I’m sure you’ve wondered where a gal got her ridickulous bj or riding skills or some such. Then the mind wanders to “damn she must’ve seen more cawk than a urinal in Grand Central Station!” -
Same thing in reverse but articulated as “he must have a lot of experience.”
 
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