Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Gender and cheating

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Do you guys think men or women cheat more? Do you think gender is even significant, or do we cheat equally as often?

Personally, I know of more guys who have cheated, but my actual friends have gotten cheated on more than they've cheated. Hence the curiosity.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Depends on one’s definition of cheating.

Biologically speaking- cheating for men amounts to protecting and provisioning for another woman. For women, cheating amounts to allowing another man to have access to her body.

Modern society’s version of cheating implies that men and women are the same, thus should be sexually monogamous to each other. Biologically, this is perverted. Male mammalian species including our close primate cousins are not sexually monogamous and actually try to impregnate multiple females as a survival mating strategy.

I subscribe to the biological definition of cheating, meaning that women are far more likely to fvck another man, than a man is to assume financial stewardship over multiple wives. In fact, polygamy is illegal in most of the world. So the answer is that men rarely if ever cheat, and women cheat with alarming frequency.
 

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Studies vary greatly - some say it’s men by a large margin, some say it’s women, some say it’s even.

Everyone has an opinion.

I know when I came out of a marriage of 20 years that I was completely gobsmacked by the number of women that were married or in LTR’s that were ridiculously lays.

I think it’s even, although there are those women that are serial cheaters that will take it to the grave.
 

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Is a man fvcking another woman equal to a woman fvcking another man?
Depends on how you think about it.

For me? No, it isn't.

We also know that when a man cheats, the first thing a woman asks is "Do you love her?" and the first thing a man asks is "Did you fnck him?"

The answer is left as an exercise for the reader.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Studies vary greatly - some say it’s men by a large margin, some say it’s women, some say it’s even.

Everyone has an opinion.

I know when I came out of a marriage of 20 years that I was completely gobsmacked by the number of women that were married or in LTR’s that were ridiculously lays.

I think it’s even, although there are those women that are serial cheaters that will take it to the grave.
For clarity - ridiculous lays or ridiculously lazy?
 

Who Dares Win

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Depends on how you think about it.

For me? No, it isn't.

We also know that when a man cheats, the first thing a woman asks is "Do you love her?" and the first thing a man asks is "Did you fnck him?"

The answer is left as an exercise for the reader.
Yeah thats the same reason why a guy on tinder wonders how many guys banged her while she cares about his current job.

Ever seen a girl asking a guy about his body count or a guy looking for detailed answer about her job.
 

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Ever seen a girl asking a guy about his body count or a guy looking for detailed answer about her job.
I’ve encountered many women who are very interested in my body count, especially after I run them through.
 

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I’ve encountered many women who are very interested in my body count, especially after I run them through.
That's interesting, it never happened to me...wonder if cause I sucks or I'm good enough.

Most of them were concerned about me banging other women while we dated but none cared about my body count.

How did the conversation happen and what they asked excactly?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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That's interesting, it never happened to me...wonder if cause I sucks or I'm good enough.

Most of them were concerned about me banging other women while we dated but none cared about my body count.

How did the conversation happen and what they asked excactly?
PM me
 

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We also know that when a man cheats, the first thing a woman asks is "Do you love her?" and the first thing a man asks is "Did you fnck him?"
Exactly.

Women care much more about a man's emotional cheating than physical. Men ONLY care about a woman's physical cheating.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Over the years, 80% OLD the balance social.
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Just like I’m sure you’ve wondered where a gal got her ridickulous bj or riding skills or some such. Then the mind wanders to “damn she must’ve seen more cawk than a urinal in Grand Central Station!” -
Same thing in reverse but articulated as “he must have a lot of experience.”
 
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