Doctor Europeo
Moderator
Ok guys, whose turn is it to take one for the team?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Ok guys, whose turn is it to take one for the team?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
74yo with fake t!ts, lol its like putting lipstick on a pig.
Wb If I was 80+
Yes there is, you've found one with a decent rack
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Judging by the roses only, that means this girl is in your area's standouts, so she IS "popular".I bet you $100 probably hasn't even been on a date from it.
What's interesting about roses is I've never gotten a single date from sending one, often not even a response. Sending a rose is extremely obnoxious since it displaces all the other likes, forcing the receiver to either respond halfheartedly or swipe left (latter is easier). When a girl sends me a rose, unless she's 7+, I always swipe left or just send a BS reply just to get her off the queue of likes sent to me, otherwise I can never see any new likes I get.Judging by the roses only, that means this girl is in your area's standouts, so she IS "popular".
You know she's had plenty of matches and dates based solely on that 2nd pic.
I got a match with the one I most recently gave a rose...but I also made a post about her "give me a week to think about it" response...so I don't know if I would call that a win.What's interesting about roses is I've never gotten a single date, or even a number, from sending a rose, most of the time not even a reply. I no longer do it. Funny enough, I often end up seeing the same girls in the normal feed later on anyway. I think in their mind, any guy who sends a rose must be too low tier to even respond to, even if it was from the normal feed that you pick from, they have no way of knowing. It's yet another reason why paying for Hinge+ would probably actually harm more than help.
Getting a match and response means nothing lol. And that response you described means low interest.I got a match with the one I most recently gave a rose...but I also made a post about her "give me a week to think about it" response...so I don't know if I would call that a win.
I just throw it at the hottest one in my standouts in case things go well, because otherwise they'll never appear in my normal feed.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah, but we're men.Getting a match and response means nothing lol. And that response you described means low interest.
I got a metric fvckton of matches but my conversation rate from matches -> dates is absurd, it's easily less than 10%. It's all a numbers game just like cold approach.
I don't think so. A lot of women admit to using OLD with zero intention of ever going on a date. It's just more narcissistic supply to many of them. Most of them are on 2-3 dating apps at once, IG, snapchat, just an endless funnel of attention.Yeah, but we're men.
The reason OUR matches don't turn into dates is because our girl picked somebody else.
Or no one at all.Yeah, but we're men.
The reason OUR matches don't turn into dates is because our girl picked somebody else.
Point is that for us not getting a date, it's because we didn't "win out".I don't think so. A lot of women admit to using OLD with zero intention of ever going on a date. It's just more narcissistic supply to many of them. Most of them are on 2-3 dating apps at once, IG, snapchat, just an endless funnel of attention.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.