Doctor Europeo
Moderator
Ok guys, whose turn is it to take one for the team?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ok guys, whose turn is it to take one for the team?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
74yo with fake t!ts, lol its like putting lipstick on a pig.
Wb If I was 80+
Yes there is, you've found one with a decent rack
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Judging by the roses only, that means this girl is in your area's standouts, so she IS "popular".I bet you $100 probably hasn't even been on a date from it.
What's interesting about roses is I've never gotten a single date from sending one, often not even a response. Sending a rose is extremely obnoxious since it displaces all the other likes, forcing the receiver to either respond halfheartedly or swipe left (latter is easier). When a girl sends me a rose, unless she's 7+, I always swipe left or just send a BS reply just to get her off the queue of likes sent to me, otherwise I can never see any new likes I get.Judging by the roses only, that means this girl is in your area's standouts, so she IS "popular".
You know she's had plenty of matches and dates based solely on that 2nd pic.
I got a match with the one I most recently gave a rose...but I also made a post about her "give me a week to think about it" response...so I don't know if I would call that a win.What's interesting about roses is I've never gotten a single date, or even a number, from sending a rose, most of the time not even a reply. I no longer do it. Funny enough, I often end up seeing the same girls in the normal feed later on anyway. I think in their mind, any guy who sends a rose must be too low tier to even respond to, even if it was from the normal feed that you pick from, they have no way of knowing. It's yet another reason why paying for Hinge+ would probably actually harm more than help.
Getting a match and response means nothing lol. And that response you described means low interest.I got a match with the one I most recently gave a rose...but I also made a post about her "give me a week to think about it" response...so I don't know if I would call that a win.
I just throw it at the hottest one in my standouts in case things go well, because otherwise they'll never appear in my normal feed.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah, but we're men.Getting a match and response means nothing lol. And that response you described means low interest.
I got a metric fvckton of matches but my conversation rate from matches -> dates is absurd, it's easily less than 10%. It's all a numbers game just like cold approach.
I don't think so. A lot of women admit to using OLD with zero intention of ever going on a date. It's just more narcissistic supply to many of them. Most of them are on 2-3 dating apps at once, IG, snapchat, just an endless funnel of attention.Yeah, but we're men.
The reason OUR matches don't turn into dates is because our girl picked somebody else.
Or no one at all.Yeah, but we're men.
The reason OUR matches don't turn into dates is because our girl picked somebody else.
Point is that for us not getting a date, it's because we didn't "win out".I don't think so. A lot of women admit to using OLD with zero intention of ever going on a date. It's just more narcissistic supply to many of them. Most of them are on 2-3 dating apps at once, IG, snapchat, just an endless funnel of attention.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.