Doctor Europeo
Moderator
Ok guys, whose turn is it to take one for the team?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ok guys, whose turn is it to take one for the team?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
74yo with fake t!ts, lol its like putting lipstick on a pig.
Wb If I was 80+
Yes there is, you've found one with a decent rack
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Judging by the roses only, that means this girl is in your area's standouts, so she IS "popular".I bet you $100 probably hasn't even been on a date from it.
What's interesting about roses is I've never gotten a single date from sending one, often not even a response. Sending a rose is extremely obnoxious since it displaces all the other likes, forcing the receiver to either respond halfheartedly or swipe left (latter is easier). When a girl sends me a rose, unless she's 7+, I always swipe left or just send a BS reply just to get her off the queue of likes sent to me, otherwise I can never see any new likes I get.Judging by the roses only, that means this girl is in your area's standouts, so she IS "popular".
You know she's had plenty of matches and dates based solely on that 2nd pic.
I got a match with the one I most recently gave a rose...but I also made a post about her "give me a week to think about it" response...so I don't know if I would call that a win.What's interesting about roses is I've never gotten a single date, or even a number, from sending a rose, most of the time not even a reply. I no longer do it. Funny enough, I often end up seeing the same girls in the normal feed later on anyway. I think in their mind, any guy who sends a rose must be too low tier to even respond to, even if it was from the normal feed that you pick from, they have no way of knowing. It's yet another reason why paying for Hinge+ would probably actually harm more than help.
Getting a match and response means nothing lol. And that response you described means low interest.I got a match with the one I most recently gave a rose...but I also made a post about her "give me a week to think about it" response...so I don't know if I would call that a win.
I just throw it at the hottest one in my standouts in case things go well, because otherwise they'll never appear in my normal feed.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah, but we're men.Getting a match and response means nothing lol. And that response you described means low interest.
I got a metric fvckton of matches but my conversation rate from matches -> dates is absurd, it's easily less than 10%. It's all a numbers game just like cold approach.
I don't think so. A lot of women admit to using OLD with zero intention of ever going on a date. It's just more narcissistic supply to many of them. Most of them are on 2-3 dating apps at once, IG, snapchat, just an endless funnel of attention.Yeah, but we're men.
The reason OUR matches don't turn into dates is because our girl picked somebody else.
Or no one at all.Yeah, but we're men.
The reason OUR matches don't turn into dates is because our girl picked somebody else.
Point is that for us not getting a date, it's because we didn't "win out".I don't think so. A lot of women admit to using OLD with zero intention of ever going on a date. It's just more narcissistic supply to many of them. Most of them are on 2-3 dating apps at once, IG, snapchat, just an endless funnel of attention.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.