Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Anything that doesn't have to do with what you used. I used to use such lines back in the 4th grade. You do not steer the convo in such freaky ways at the begining. If things lead up to how everyone is a sheep but she stands out, then fine. But not out of the blue. Conversation: Topic to topic with a logical link between them.Originally posted by aznxboi
LikRetsam, what are some "not chump" opener do you recommend then?
Hmmm alright, I'm might got an idea. But I dont want to risk, starting another conversation, with her, that might make me regret it again. So, do you have any good examples up your sleeve? That would greatly helpful. AND thanks xomel for your examples. You really made me, got somewhat of an idea.Originally posted by LikRetsam
Conversation: Topic to topic with a logical link between them.
Get off your computer and rethink your life.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You know why you can't get through to her?I really need some advice, I cant let this opportunity slip away.. She one challengin girl, and I sure love her tyle, the type that I want.. But i cant manage to get through her
thats not that bad of a thing to say if youre under the right circumstances.... for example if she was older or something....thats not something that you would say to a girl 21 years old and down.....also there was no reason for you to say something like that bc is not like if she was in any pedestal or anything.... and DONT say something like that online.....Originally posted by aznxboi
Her: ...
Me: probably alot of ppl might think you're diff from them, but i know something that none of them know
Me: there really another side of u
Me: a side none of them get to see
Her: is there?
Her: um.. how do u know the other side of me?
Her: i like. met u 3 minutes ago.. err.. whateva
Me: i'll bet u a dollar right now, i know something no one who only known u for 3 min ever known
Her: and that is.....
Her: ur really beginning to scare me now..
Her: hahaha
Me: you may act tough, but u're actually extremely sensitive on the inside, if someone makes a negative comment to u, u might act like it doesn't bother u
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wow. that was perfect.Originally posted by Vincent
Don't be jealous because I've been chatting with babes online, all day,
agreed.Originally posted by xomel
1. what you said was scary
Originally posted by aznxboi
I only use AIM to talk to the people I met, or people I know.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.