"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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trd323

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I have been talking to this girl and we both laugh our asses off when we are together, I kino her and she does the i cant believe you said that smack on my arm. This goes on everytime we are together. My question is. She is a very outgoing girl and has a lot of guy friends because of her personality. What else should I do so that I dont get put into that category? I never call her because we see eachother every other day. And i always make it a point that if she is doing something on the weekend I am also busy. I like this girl a lot. NO Friend Zone.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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DonJuanMonk

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Oh you AFC. Just because a girl smacks you on your arm and you feel all giddy cause a girl touches you doesn't mean she likes you. OMG, that girl winked at me. OMG, that girl held my hands. OMG, I'm not having sex with her so all this analyzing makes ZERO FCKING SENSE.
 

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thanks for the reply, i guess some of us are just born Djs. And i guess the post count did not hint that I am an AFC, and I guess the fact that I am here and want advice also does not make me an afc and that I want to change.
 

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You guys really helped him out here with his questions. Good job. Dipsh!ts. :rolleyes:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You guys really helped him out here with his questions. Good job. Dipsh!ts.

Hypocrit ;)

Organise a movie or something with her, preferably somewhere quiet though, where you can talk etc. Start making the moves on her, and you'll know pretty quickly how FZ'ed you are, if at all.

Also, you do not say "I like this girl a lot". You say "I'm interested in seeing if she's the kind of person I'd like to get to know more intimately".

Syn.
 

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What about asking her what she thinks of you, and in what way?
 

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Originally posted by Levrone
What about asking her what she thinks of you, and in what way?
Please give the DJ bible a read before giving out advice.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Gonzalo
Please give the DJ bible a read before giving out advice.
Why? I read the DJ bible ;) Nothing found what's wrong with that..
 
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