This female friend of mine, whom I've known for about a year, told me today she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years. Admittedly, I developed a crush on her when I first met her...found out she had a boyfriend and since then have been seeing other women while remaining friends with her (we have the same social circle). That said, I still find this girl attractive, we still have good chemistry, and so I'd like to see if we can be more than friends. Any advice on how I should handle this? She's already been coming over to my house a lot lately, and probably will this weekend if she doesn't go out of town. Also, I don't know her ex-boyfriend, so he's not an issue.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Friend just broke up with her BF
- Thread starter jcb1772
- Start date
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
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devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
careful about dating a girl who's almost definitely not over her EX(unless she got tired of his crap and dumped him), make sure you're not too deep in the friendzone before you proceed. if you are then she'll bang some guy but it won't be you
I think I'd gone a bit beta and was seeking her attention/company too much this week. I got the sense she started to tune me out yesterday. So today (after reading some advice on old threads here), I have avoided starting up conversations with her...and then when she's messaged me, I've been acting distracted and uninterested (basically one liner replies). Lo behold...she keeps messaging me. Funny how that works. Not sure how long I'll keep doing that, I'll probably drop some flirt crumbs next week and see what happens.
Maximummax
Senior Don Juan
don't be her rebound guy
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
