This female friend of mine, whom I've known for about a year, told me today she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years. Admittedly, I developed a crush on her when I first met her...found out she had a boyfriend and since then have been seeing other women while remaining friends with her (we have the same social circle). That said, I still find this girl attractive, we still have good chemistry, and so I'd like to see if we can be more than friends. Any advice on how I should handle this? She's already been coming over to my house a lot lately, and probably will this weekend if she doesn't go out of town. Also, I don't know her ex-boyfriend, so he's not an issue.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Friend just broke up with her BF
- Thread starter jcb1772
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
careful about dating a girl who's almost definitely not over her EX(unless she got tired of his crap and dumped him), make sure you're not too deep in the friendzone before you proceed. if you are then she'll bang some guy but it won't be you
I think I'd gone a bit beta and was seeking her attention/company too much this week. I got the sense she started to tune me out yesterday. So today (after reading some advice on old threads here), I have avoided starting up conversations with her...and then when she's messaged me, I've been acting distracted and uninterested (basically one liner replies). Lo behold...she keeps messaging me. Funny how that works. Not sure how long I'll keep doing that, I'll probably drop some flirt crumbs next week and see what happens.
Maximummax
Senior Don Juan
don't be her rebound guy
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
