This female friend of mine, whom I've known for about a year, told me today she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years. Admittedly, I developed a crush on her when I first met her...found out she had a boyfriend and since then have been seeing other women while remaining friends with her (we have the same social circle). That said, I still find this girl attractive, we still have good chemistry, and so I'd like to see if we can be more than friends. Any advice on how I should handle this? She's already been coming over to my house a lot lately, and probably will this weekend if she doesn't go out of town. Also, I don't know her ex-boyfriend, so he's not an issue.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Friend just broke up with her BF
- Thread starter jcb1772
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
careful about dating a girl who's almost definitely not over her EX(unless she got tired of his crap and dumped him), make sure you're not too deep in the friendzone before you proceed. if you are then she'll bang some guy but it won't be you
I think I'd gone a bit beta and was seeking her attention/company too much this week. I got the sense she started to tune me out yesterday. So today (after reading some advice on old threads here), I have avoided starting up conversations with her...and then when she's messaged me, I've been acting distracted and uninterested (basically one liner replies). Lo behold...she keeps messaging me. Funny how that works. Not sure how long I'll keep doing that, I'll probably drop some flirt crumbs next week and see what happens.
Maximummax
Senior Don Juan
don't be her rebound guy
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
