This female friend of mine, whom I've known for about a year, told me today she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years. Admittedly, I developed a crush on her when I first met her...found out she had a boyfriend and since then have been seeing other women while remaining friends with her (we have the same social circle). That said, I still find this girl attractive, we still have good chemistry, and so I'd like to see if we can be more than friends. Any advice on how I should handle this? She's already been coming over to my house a lot lately, and probably will this weekend if she doesn't go out of town. Also, I don't know her ex-boyfriend, so he's not an issue.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Friend just broke up with her BF
- Thread starter jcb1772
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
careful about dating a girl who's almost definitely not over her EX(unless she got tired of his crap and dumped him), make sure you're not too deep in the friendzone before you proceed. if you are then she'll bang some guy but it won't be you
I think I'd gone a bit beta and was seeking her attention/company too much this week. I got the sense she started to tune me out yesterday. So today (after reading some advice on old threads here), I have avoided starting up conversations with her...and then when she's messaged me, I've been acting distracted and uninterested (basically one liner replies). Lo behold...she keeps messaging me. Funny how that works. Not sure how long I'll keep doing that, I'll probably drop some flirt crumbs next week and see what happens.
Maximummax
Senior Don Juan
don't be her rebound guy
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
