"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
God_of_getting_layed
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exactly.Rudra said:
I see it all too often: some guy looks average looking to me, and then when he becomes the topic of conversation by some female friends, they all start saying things like "oh, hes so cute!" or "hes hot". same thing when female frineds are checking out guys on the street.
Most men or poor judges of what the typical girl considers good looking.
So before you say "this guy is average looking and gets ass", please get several female opinions 1st before you label him as average looking.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
"Nice" is only bad when it's being used as a polite euphemism for "spineless" or something along those lines.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
All I ever hear on this forum is
"girls don't like nice guys", you have to be a bad boy.
I finally asked him how he does it,
and his response was simply, "act like she's your girlfriend."backbreaker
Master Don Juan
A DJ is not a guy in lether with no shirt, all black with spiked hair, that goes around ***** slapping women for the hell of it and degrading men.
you can be, no.. you MUST be respectful, considerate, optomistic, funny, etc to be a true DJ.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
He does seem confident. I mean, he can talk to anybody. Even if she's really hot, he talks to chicks like he's known them for years. It's hard to explain. He's always smiling though. Even as he's talking.
He's funny. We were in the lunch room at work and he ordered a sandwich. He asked the lady to cut it in triangles. She said "No you can do that", and he laughed.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
comic_relief
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
why dont you do a search for the 10000 "you can be nice and not be a nice guy" TIP threads on this site
the only bad "nice" that you shouldn't be is the "desperate, i need to be nice so u'll like me" nice
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God_of_getting_layed said:
girl's go for guys with features. This means if he has nice eyes, A NICE SMILE (which according to this thread, you said he does because he smiles alot), is tall, is muscular, has hot hair, has a hot fashion sense, is rugged manly look, ect ect - YOU as a guy don't consider that to be good looking, but some girls LOVE a guy to look a certain way
get out there to the real world and find out
I personally have been called the following things by girls - ugliest guy in the world, ugly as hell, ugly as ****, ugly, alright, ok looking, cute, handsome, beautiful (yes u read that right), hot, hot as hell, fcuking hot, gorgeous, sexy, very sexy, veryyyyy cute
you get the idea? girl's tastes vary.
p.s. I had an HB4 call me ugly, and I had an hb9 call me hot - my point is proven