"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Friend is AFC, gets laid like crazy

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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God_of_getting_layed

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Rudra said:
How do you know? Do you have girly vision? Maybe chicks think by this looks that he´s the sultan of twOt himself.
exactly.

I see it all too often: some guy looks average looking to me, and then when he becomes the topic of conversation by some female friends, they all start saying things like "oh, hes so cute!" or "hes hot". same thing when female frineds are checking out guys on the street.

Most men or poor judges of what the typical girl considers good looking.

So before you say "this guy is average looking and gets ass", please get several female opinions 1st before you label him as average looking.
 

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WTF? Being nice works best for me.

"Nice" is only bad when it's being used as a polite euphemism for "spineless" or something along those lines.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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There is nice guys, jerks, and good guys. Your friend sounds like a good guy. If he is getting alot of "A$$" then, he may not be the AFC you say he his. How much are you getting? Maybe, you should take notes from your friend!
 

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MagnuM said:
You are a cynic.
haha - I won't say for sure until I find out about that money - and the car...:yes:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Code:
All I ever hear on this forum is 
"girls don't like nice guys", you have to be a bad boy.
Who said you have to be a bad boy? :confused:

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I finally asked him how he does it, 
and his response was simply, "act like she's your girlfriend."
Um could your friend be any more vague? :rolleyes:
 

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the only thing coming out here is the fundemental lack of knowing what a DJ is, whichi si ovbious but 90% of the responses here.

A DJ is not a guy in lether with no shirt, all black with spiked hair, that goes around ***** slapping women for the hell of it and degrading men.

you can be, no.. you MUST be respectful, considerate, optomistic, funny, etc to be a true DJ.
 

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Well he's 21, so not that much. 12 bucks an hour I think? We work together

He does seem confident. I mean, he can talk to anybody. Even if she's really hot, he talks to chicks like he's known them for years. It's hard to explain. He's always smiling though. Even as he's talking.

He's funny. We were in the lunch room at work and he ordered a sandwich. He asked the lady to cut it in triangles. She said "No you can do that", and he laughed.
 

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sounds like myself.

comic_relief
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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original poster is absolutely stupid

why dont you do a search for the 10000 "you can be nice and not be a nice guy" TIP threads on this site

the only bad "nice" that you shouldn't be is the "desperate, i need to be nice so u'll like me" nice
 

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God_of_getting_layed said:
exactly.

I see it all too often: some guy looks average looking to me, and then when he becomes the topic of conversation by some female friends, they all start saying things like "oh, hes so cute!" or "hes hot". same thing when female frineds are checking out guys on the street.

Most men or poor judges of what the typical girl considers good looking.

So before you say "this guy is average looking and gets ass", please get several female opinions 1st before you label him as average looking.


girl's go for guys with features. This means if he has nice eyes, A NICE SMILE (which according to this thread, you said he does because he smiles alot), is tall, is muscular, has hot hair, has a hot fashion sense, is rugged manly look, ect ect - YOU as a guy don't consider that to be good looking, but some girls LOVE a guy to look a certain way

get out there to the real world and find out

I personally have been called the following things by girls - ugliest guy in the world, ugly as hell, ugly as ****, ugly, alright, ok looking, cute, handsome, beautiful (yes u read that right), hot, hot as hell, fcuking hot, gorgeous, sexy, very sexy, veryyyyy cute

you get the idea? girl's tastes vary.

p.s. I had an HB4 call me ugly, and I had an hb9 call me hot - my point is proven
 
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