You are a cynic.Firepower said:What kind of car does he drive.
How much money does he have.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You are a cynic.Firepower said:What kind of car does he drive.
How much money does he have.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
exactly.Rudra said:How do you know? Do you have girly vision? Maybe chicks think by this looks that he´s the sultan of twOt himself.
haha - I won't say for sure until I find out about that money - and the car...:yes:MagnuM said:You are a cynic.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
All I ever hear on this forum is
"girls don't like nice guys", you have to be a bad boy.
I finally asked him how he does it,
and his response was simply, "act like she's your girlfriend."
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
God_of_getting_layed said:exactly.
I see it all too often: some guy looks average looking to me, and then when he becomes the topic of conversation by some female friends, they all start saying things like "oh, hes so cute!" or "hes hot". same thing when female frineds are checking out guys on the street.
Most men or poor judges of what the typical girl considers good looking.
So before you say "this guy is average looking and gets ass", please get several female opinions 1st before you label him as average looking.