"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you get their subconsious arroused?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do I arrouse them in other ways... like by acting a certain way?
do they really get arroused by personality, or saying certain things?
 

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Some might, but its about how you get their senses alive and kicking.
 

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How can it be only their sense of touch?
I think theres more that I probably should know about..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What's wrong with using their sense of touch? It's proven to work best. Think about it, what's more likely to get you more arroused? A girl grinding her hip against your crotch or a girl telling thats she's going to grind against your crotch . Also if you need other senses smell is prolly next best after touch.
 

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too bad I can't work on a *****...
so just quick touches on like the shoulders/arms?

I can't even talk to people that well, talking about touching them X.x
 

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theres nothing wrong with asking questions... alot of people here give great advice..
 

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
too bad I can't work on a *****...
so just quick touches on like the shoulders/arms?

I can't even talk to people that well, talking about touching them X.x
If your touches are too quick you'll appear nervous, they have to be smooth and meaningfull. Best places are shoulders, arms and if possible hands, hand touches are very meaningful to girls compared to guys. This girl I've been seeing didn't hold my hand properly if at all untill after I had kissed her, that's how important it is for them.

Also don't hold the touch too long unless it's like an embrace or you'll appear needy. And even with an ebrace I dont hold it for more than a few mins before I'll break it and turn my back to the girl (very rarely but sometimes rather than me breaking it I will throw her out of it into somebody else or a nearby bush/soft object, not violently of course and just say something like "sorry I needed something from my pocket and you were in the way"), only going back into it if she comes up and moves herself into it.
 

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Plec07 said:
If your touches are too quick you'll appear nervous, they have to be smooth and meaningfull. Best places are shoulders, arms and if possible hands, hand touches are very meaningful to girls compared to guys. This girl I've been seeing didn't hold my hand properly if at all untill after I had kissed her, that's how important it is for them.

Also don't hold the touch too long unless it's like an embrace or you'll appear needy. And even with an ebrace I dont hold it for more than a few mins before I'll break it and turn my back to the girl (very rarely but sometimes rather than me breaking it I will throw her out of it into somebody else or a nearby bush/soft object, not violently of course and just say something like "sorry I needed something from my pocket and you were in the way"), only going back into it if she comes up and moves herself into it.
The most Effective method of doing something is the ones calculated to cause the most Effect with the least Effort.

Point in case.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
can you explain smooth and meaningful?
Think of how a male lion moves around a group of lionesses (sp?). Every stride he takes if powerful, large and with meaning.He moves in such a way that every muscle in his shoulders is visibally moving. He doesn't hesitate with any of his steps. He doesn't take little steps. He knows where he wants to be and he goes there, if there isn't anything for him on the other side he stays right where he is. There is always a reason behind his movements - meaningful -.

He does this because he is the Alpha Male. Watch the jocks and all the popular kids at school, especially the leaders of the groups. They will all move like this, with power and meaning. Do the same, and you'll become more noticed as an alpha male.

So in short, when you move in for the touch (or at all) don't hesitate and make it a large gesture.
 

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Smooth = Not nervous / jerky / robotic

Meaningful = with a purpose( such as to emphasise , empathise etc)

Sometimes i gotta agree with superchill89 : How many girls have you approached today ; not merely with a purpose of seduction???
 

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ok try: good posture, head up, and... slight movements with your shoulders when you walk?

lol I have no idea how to walk properly
 

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what do you mean you have no idea how to walk properly?!

Walk like how you would normally walk, just don't shuffle or have your head hanging down to the ground.

No big deal, it's really simple.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
ok try: good posture, head up, and... slight movements with your shoulders when you walk?

lol I have no idea how to walk properly
Walk normal as you usually do. Thats it. Nothing more.

Dont put so much pressure on yourself in trying to be perfect.
 
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