"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FR: Girl I talked to outside of library.

sandman6991

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ElStud...you're just so damn insecure and defensive all the time. You open yourself up to all of this
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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young_gun

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ElStud,

You're actually not doing that badly. Most guys don't approach girls outside their social circles at all, so you have a leg up on most guys in this category. However, you definitely need to get past this whole "getting their Facebook" thing and get some phone numbers. Then, you call them and go on dates with them. It isn't that hard.

The whole Pokemon thing is a little weird too. I don't know where you come up with some of the things that you do.
 

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Wow, people are still replying to this topic. Haha and while you guys have been focused on this one approach and still focusing on hating on it, I've actually gone out since then and approached several other girls. You know, I've actually gone out there and improved.
 

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ElStud said:
Wow, people are still replying to this topic. Haha and while you guys have been focused on this one approach and still focusing on hating on it, I've actually gone out since then and approached several other girls. You know, I've actually gone out there and improved.
And we're so proud of you.
 

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I think the difference between me and you guys though, is you approach one set and analyze it. Meanwhile I approach and if it doesn't go well I just move on to the next set.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ElStud said:
I think the difference between me and you guys though, is you approach one set and analyze it. Meanwhile I approach and if it doesn't go well I just move on to the next set.
You're the man bro. Keep opening sets. :rock:
 

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ElStud said:
Wow, people are still replying to this topic. Haha and while you guys have been focused on this one approach and still focusing on hating on it, I've actually gone out since then and approached several other girls. You know, I've actually gone out there and improved.
Haha, and you know while you were crashing and burning i was having sex with my girlfriend. You know, actually had some sort of physical contact with the female species. So while you hate on me...i keep on truckin...hahaha
 

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Elstud,

The only thing you bring to this community is your "I'm better than everyone else" attitude. Keep it up though, it always makes for a good laugh.
 

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ElStud said:
Wow, people are still replying to this topic. Haha and while you guys have been focused on this one approach and still focusing on hating on it, I've actually gone out since then and approached several other girls. You know, I've actually gone out there and improved.

You have definitely not improved in the five months I've been back on this forum. Anyway, didn't you decide you just wanted to hang out with dudes?
 

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oakraiderz2 said:
Haha, and you know while you were crashing and burning i was having sex with my girlfriend. You know, actually had some sort of physical contact with the female species. So while you hate on me...i keep on truckin...hahaha
Good for you man. Does your little ego make you happy? I don't really give a sh*t what you're doing with your girlfriend. And dude, I really don't think you're in any realm to be talking about haters. Let's just put it this way, I aint an ass pirate like you. I care about more things than girls. Sure, I want girls, but they aint my life. This forum becomes more of a joke everyday.

Not a breeding ground for what it advertises, Don Juans, but a breeding ground for asspirates who are desperate for p*ssy.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ElStud said:
Good for you man. Does your little ego make you happy? I don't really give a sh*t what you're doing with your girlfriend. And dude, I really don't think you're in any realm to be talking about haters. Let's just put it this way, I aint an ass pirate like you. I care about more things than girls. Sure, I want girls, but they aint my life. This forum becomes more of a joke everyday.

Not a breeding ground for what it advertises, Don Juans, but a breeding ground for asspirates who are desperate for p*ssy.
Yea, it does, im glad you noticed. Stop talking sh*t. If you dont care about girls then why are you posting HORRIBLE frs? Youre a tool. Hahahahaha...youre funny. Youre crazy antics are the only reason i respond to youre post. Hahah, youre funny, kiddo.
 

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Months away and it's still the same old ****.

Guys, I've had my go arounds with El Stud, and I flamed him worse than anyone, but after some much needed perspective, he'sout there talking to birds.

Yeah he doesn't get dates, and yeah he doesn't get laid, but he's in the field.

He'll improve in time. Hopefully.
 
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