FR - " but you dont even know me"

[Bingo-Player]

Well no, rookie stuff would be looking for a woman at a bar to date at the age of 32

Who said I was looking ? I ran into her. she fit my requirements. I did what I could

I don't know what else you want

 

[Mertz09]

Well no, rookie stuff would be looking for a woman at a bar to date at the age of 32

Why is that a rookie move??

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Why is that a rookie move??

Why isn't it?

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Who said I was looking ? I ran into her. she fit my requirements. I did what I could

I don't know what else you want

I would argue you don't know what you want if your trying to find a date at a bar, this is what functional hobbies are for, bar hopping isn't functional, it's not something you can do on a consistent basis without experiencing adverse effects from.

Also, you have to consider her position: mate acquisition for women is a very circular thing because most women have a lot of ego and don't chase, so what they do instead is recreate their past successes, so what you want to do is channel this energy through an activity that isn't accessible to just anybody, the reason you do this is because you want to leverage her into scarcity as much as possible... Success at the bar for a woman is easily recreated which means she's going to be in abundance which is exactly what you saw, a woman with options and those options don't go away just because she's dating you, the bar options are super accessible.

So yes, rookie AF.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

I think a few are dismissing girl game here.

Women are definitely gaming you just as you are gaming them.

We often think that we are in control of the situation but they're also pulling strings here and there to get what they want, to reel you in or to keep the good ol’ orbiter in circulation.

Bites of info about their tactics so they're more easily recognized to put out fires would do the forum’s youngins a solid. Break some bread mf’ers.

 

[Macadellic]

Her: but you don’t even know me
You: facts
And you continue on like you know her.

Subtle acknowledgment of her frame but you continue on in your frame.

Whose reality is stronger?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Her: but you don’t even know me
You: facts
And you continue on like you know her.

Subtle acknowledgment of her frame but you continue on in your frame.

Whose reality is stronger?

Adding "facts" to the k/cool/meh/fair short response arsenal.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

U seem very agitated are you ok ?

I'm always agitated. You'd be cray not to be agitated in today's world. How you deal with the agitation is up to you but it's a very natural response to current conditions.

You're the one suggesting "axe throwing" on a date lolz.

 

[Macadellic]

I don't think they get to throw axes at human targets.

Damn sounded like a fun date…
If you can dodge an axe, you can dodge a ball.

 

[BeExcellent]

I won't refute this^^ BUT @Bingo-Player hasn't even asked her on a date yet! Does she even know he's available to date versus wanting a pen pal?

A man should show interest too, escalate, ask her out before a woman of quality is gonna go chasing him over the rainbow, come on.

Low level hoes, sure they'll go chasing. It depends on what type of girl you want.

Bingo said he's sick of those types yet he expects this girl to behave like them and chase him?

You cannot have it both ways, something's gotta give!

This girl has given you IOIs so what are you waiting for?

Where is @BeExcellent? She has written about this extensively! Which many of you guys have agreed with.

Agree 100%. See the How to Spot a Unicorn thread in the search bar. The paradox you describe is something I've found perplexing for years around here.

Man up & ask the woman out. Get her on a date or get rejected and get on with it. Why allow anyone to waste your time?

 

[Mertz09]

Agree 100%. See the How to Spot a Unicorn thread in the search bar. The paradox you describe is something I've found perplexing for years around here.

Man up & ask the woman out. Get her on a date or get rejected and get on with it. Why allow anyone to waste your time?

Rejection is better than regret. If you don’t at least try, then you will never know.