"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
FR: Approached a few sets at lunch.
- Thread starter ElStud
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
why didnt you take my advice earlier in the thread? When you cold approach like you love doing, you need to genuinly take an active interest in the girl and her life, you need to show it by actually talking to her instead of busting joke after joke after joke. It also helps if you get eye contact before the approach. And the problem is not with your words, but its with how you feel, because you make it seem like you are just waltzing around "trying to have fun" and talking shyt to every girl you see, when REALLY what you should be feeling is genuine interest to get to know the girl you are approaching, and then she'll respond better
oh yea and stop approaching at shcool, you dont want everyone to know u as "that creepy kid who keeps approaching random girls" do ya??? approach in places where people don't know you yet and u have a clean slate
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Real,Real said:Elstud, your a ****ing fool for completely ignoring the advice I gave you in this thread
You don't need to make 5 consecutive posts.
why didnt you take my advice earlier in the thread? When you cold approach like you love doing, you need to genuinly take an active interest in the girl and her life, you need to show it by actually talking to her instead of busting joke after joke after joke. It also helps if you get eye contact before the approach. And the problem is not with your words, but its with how you feel, because you make it seem like you are just waltzing around "trying to have fun" and talking shyt to every girl you see, when REALLY what you should be feeling is genuine interest to get to know the girl you are approaching, and then she'll respond better
oh yea and stop approaching at shcool, you dont want everyone to know u as "that creepy kid who keeps approaching random girls" do ya??? approach in places where people don't know you yet and u have a clean slate
And youve posted like 40 threads about your stupid ass approaches and not one of them was successfull, was there ever a number or did you guys go out somewhere after?ElStud said:Tell me Dav and tell me Real, what makes you guys think you're so big? You're obvious not as good at getting women as you make yourselfs to be. Neither of you have anything threads and you both have less than a hundred posts, but feel the right to act superior to everyone on the board.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.