sandman6991
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Why don't you just let the girls come to you and your friends at lunch?
You say they're interested...
You say they're interested...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Actually, the girls from the 3rd approach did initiate convo with me at the football game on Saturday and the two girls from that set actually introduced me to one of their friends.sandman6991 said:Why don't you just let the girls come to you and your friends at lunch?
You say they're interested...
Hooray you're a pimp.ElStud said:Actually, the girls from the 3rd approach did initiate convo with me at the football game on Saturday and the two girls from that set actually introduced me to one of their friends.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That's what I hate about the advice you guys give though. It's WORDS, WORDS, and more WORDS. You guys think if you're not using the right WORDS, it's a bad approach, this is clearly not truth. It does not matter what story you're using, it doesn't matter what the f*ck you say to the girl, if you're not conveying the right things, she's not going to be interested in you anyways. Get a total newbie to the game to go up to a girl with the best story ever, she probably won't be interested cause she can sense his agenda and that he's not displaying his true personality.TheVirtualMind said:Try using different stories...
Dude, don't worry about my friends, I have SEVERAL friends but ofcourse these aren't guys I'd actually game with. I just don't like the idea of fvcking game girls with your friends, since they probably don't understand PU. If anything I would bring my friends over and they'd make the set harder for me. Nah, PUing with friends aint something I do. Plus, I don't even talk to my friends at lunch, I just use lunch time to approach girls.How about you make some friends first that you can hangout with at lunch so you don't look like a lonely creep, and also company for your weekends since I've read in another thread you don't have much going on.
Get more socially acceptable first, then focus on girls. By the sound of it it seems like you're always by yourself on lunch breaks and simply approach any chick that's in front of you and negging them.
EVEN if you succeed with a girl eventually - it will be a pretty boring relationship because you apparently haven't got much going on for you.
Of course I'm only judging from your posts. But I haven't once seen you mention a friend.
No no no... I didn't say use your friends as wingmen.. I said use your friends as social proof. Social proof is very important when it comes to attracting and getting interest from women and ESPECIALLY in high school. No girl is going to date someone who doesn't have any social proof and most of the times he's by himself. When women see you have social proof, part of the game is over.ElStud said:Dude, don't worry about my friends, I have SEVERAL friends but ofcourse these aren't guys I'd actually game with. I just don't like the idea of fvcking game girls with your friends, since they probably don't understand PU. If anything I would bring my friends over and they'd make the set harder for me. Nah, PUing with friends aint something I do. Plus, I don't even talk to my friends at lunch, I just use lunch time to approach girls.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Best advice you've given yet, yeah, I actually have been overgaming the girls. Negging is good when you've just met them, but eventually girls will get tired of that type of stuff. Since I already know the girls in set 3, I'm going to stop with the negging and just vibe them, kinoing whichever one I want to date.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:Ahhh too much text..
how about you just try being less full of yourself and a touch nicer to make girls more comfortable around you?
thank you for the compliment el.ElStud said:Best advice you've given yet.
to help you, we have to beat the truth into you.Real said:people, think of an awkwardly social creepy 17 year old kissless virgin who THINKS he's the shyt because his ego is huge for absolutely no reason.........kinda like that guy who hits on 20 girls at a party, gets brutally rejected by all of them, and still says "yupp im da man baby im da man!" (think of the guys at Night at the Roxbury)
Elstud thinks what he is doing is 100% right, yet he has no proof of success to back it up - he's a crazy creepy guy really
his looks are the problem, and they cause him to be so socially awkward
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
No, everything you said was on the money except the looks part. It's his ego. And his inability to take criticism without getting defensive.Real said:people, think of an awkwardly social creepy 17 year old kissless virgin who THINKS he's the shyt because his ego is huge for absolutely no reason.........kinda like that guy who hits on 20 girls at a party, gets brutally rejected by all of them, and still says "yupp im da man baby im da man!" (think of the guys at Night at the Roxbury)
Elstud thinks what he is doing is 100% right, yet he has no proof of success to back it up - he's a crazy creepy guy really
his looks are the problem, and they cause him to be so socially awkward
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.