sandman6991
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Why don't you just let the girls come to you and your friends at lunch?
You say they're interested...
You say they're interested...
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Actually, the girls from the 3rd approach did initiate convo with me at the football game on Saturday and the two girls from that set actually introduced me to one of their friends.sandman6991 said:Why don't you just let the girls come to you and your friends at lunch?
You say they're interested...
Hooray you're a pimp.ElStud said:Actually, the girls from the 3rd approach did initiate convo with me at the football game on Saturday and the two girls from that set actually introduced me to one of their friends.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That's what I hate about the advice you guys give though. It's WORDS, WORDS, and more WORDS. You guys think if you're not using the right WORDS, it's a bad approach, this is clearly not truth. It does not matter what story you're using, it doesn't matter what the f*ck you say to the girl, if you're not conveying the right things, she's not going to be interested in you anyways. Get a total newbie to the game to go up to a girl with the best story ever, she probably won't be interested cause she can sense his agenda and that he's not displaying his true personality.TheVirtualMind said:Try using different stories...
Dude, don't worry about my friends, I have SEVERAL friends but ofcourse these aren't guys I'd actually game with. I just don't like the idea of fvcking game girls with your friends, since they probably don't understand PU. If anything I would bring my friends over and they'd make the set harder for me. Nah, PUing with friends aint something I do. Plus, I don't even talk to my friends at lunch, I just use lunch time to approach girls.How about you make some friends first that you can hangout with at lunch so you don't look like a lonely creep, and also company for your weekends since I've read in another thread you don't have much going on.
Get more socially acceptable first, then focus on girls. By the sound of it it seems like you're always by yourself on lunch breaks and simply approach any chick that's in front of you and negging them.
EVEN if you succeed with a girl eventually - it will be a pretty boring relationship because you apparently haven't got much going on for you.
Of course I'm only judging from your posts. But I haven't once seen you mention a friend.
No no no... I didn't say use your friends as wingmen.. I said use your friends as social proof. Social proof is very important when it comes to attracting and getting interest from women and ESPECIALLY in high school. No girl is going to date someone who doesn't have any social proof and most of the times he's by himself. When women see you have social proof, part of the game is over.ElStud said:Dude, don't worry about my friends, I have SEVERAL friends but ofcourse these aren't guys I'd actually game with. I just don't like the idea of fvcking game girls with your friends, since they probably don't understand PU. If anything I would bring my friends over and they'd make the set harder for me. Nah, PUing with friends aint something I do. Plus, I don't even talk to my friends at lunch, I just use lunch time to approach girls.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Best advice you've given yet, yeah, I actually have been overgaming the girls. Negging is good when you've just met them, but eventually girls will get tired of that type of stuff. Since I already know the girls in set 3, I'm going to stop with the negging and just vibe them, kinoing whichever one I want to date.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:Ahhh too much text..
how about you just try being less full of yourself and a touch nicer to make girls more comfortable around you?
thank you for the compliment el.ElStud said:Best advice you've given yet.
to help you, we have to beat the truth into you.Real said:people, think of an awkwardly social creepy 17 year old kissless virgin who THINKS he's the shyt because his ego is huge for absolutely no reason.........kinda like that guy who hits on 20 girls at a party, gets brutally rejected by all of them, and still says "yupp im da man baby im da man!" (think of the guys at Night at the Roxbury)
Elstud thinks what he is doing is 100% right, yet he has no proof of success to back it up - he's a crazy creepy guy really
his looks are the problem, and they cause him to be so socially awkward
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
No, everything you said was on the money except the looks part. It's his ego. And his inability to take criticism without getting defensive.Real said:people, think of an awkwardly social creepy 17 year old kissless virgin who THINKS he's the shyt because his ego is huge for absolutely no reason.........kinda like that guy who hits on 20 girls at a party, gets brutally rejected by all of them, and still says "yupp im da man baby im da man!" (think of the guys at Night at the Roxbury)
Elstud thinks what he is doing is 100% right, yet he has no proof of success to back it up - he's a crazy creepy guy really
his looks are the problem, and they cause him to be so socially awkward
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.