youngwilliam
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And yes, I'm excited! Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend. Foul play, correct?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thats not a good sign. I wouldnt like it. What business does she have with an ex boyfriend if your her boyfriend?. If youve been looking for a way out of the relationship, here's your excuse.youngwilliam said:And yes, I'm excited! Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend. Foul play, correct?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well if he's dead that's okay, but since he's probably not that means she's going to end up contacting him at some point and you shouldn't be happy about that.youngwilliam said:Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend.
You bet your azz its foul play. Let her find out He's contacting an Ex of his and you will see the hell she will try to give him about "Why are you talking to your ex?" . Trust me man, this is never a good sign. this is her former "Fvck" and she has no business contacting when she has a B/F right now.KontrollerX said:Kind of hard to say whether its foul play or not.
Could be a beginning sign of disrespect towards you.
Hmmm, she been acting different towards you lately other than this?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That's not suave, that's just stupid.youngwilliam said:No, no different behavior. I just asked a dumb question, " Who is **&^&&:" And she said, " Oh, I used to date him, but that was a long time ago". So, I said, " Cool, you should go and be with him." And, I left it at that. No sense in getting all worked up. The ass kicker is, now she feels all guilty, walking around and not saying anything. Ah, I tell you fellas, being cool about situations like this, gives meaning to SoSuave (hence the name).
Exactly what I said. You were not suave, just stupid.youngwilliam said:what the **** is that supposed to mean?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
OH THANK GOD! Someone else finally gets it.pimpaholicskip said:how bout u stop overanalyzing and enjoy life
she friended him just for attention
I think not caring that its facebook and she ain't fvcking him in real life is what is important. You got to be able to trust your girl, she could be in a club with her girls or in a resturant and she could run into her ex and yes she is going to politley talk to him just like you would if you run into yours ( unless its your thing to avoid and run the other direction then be my guest).youngwilliam said:Like it was mentioned, she has no biz with her ex (or at least I thought). What the h&44 can you can do in a situation like thst? I think being non-confrontational is the best recourse.......
Eternal said:OH THANK GOD! Someone else finally gets it.
William, are you planning on analyzing you gf's every move?
"Oh man, she talked to the gas station attendant and they went to high school together...Better talk to her about that!"
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.