youngwilliam
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And yes, I'm excited! Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend. Foul play, correct?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thats not a good sign. I wouldnt like it. What business does she have with an ex boyfriend if your her boyfriend?. If youve been looking for a way out of the relationship, here's your excuse.youngwilliam said:And yes, I'm excited! Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend. Foul play, correct?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Well if he's dead that's okay, but since he's probably not that means she's going to end up contacting him at some point and you shouldn't be happy about that.youngwilliam said:Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend.
You bet your azz its foul play. Let her find out He's contacting an Ex of his and you will see the hell she will try to give him about "Why are you talking to your ex?" . Trust me man, this is never a good sign. this is her former "Fvck" and she has no business contacting when she has a B/F right now.KontrollerX said:Kind of hard to say whether its foul play or not.
Could be a beginning sign of disrespect towards you.
Hmmm, she been acting different towards you lately other than this?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's not suave, that's just stupid.youngwilliam said:No, no different behavior. I just asked a dumb question, " Who is **&^&&:" And she said, " Oh, I used to date him, but that was a long time ago". So, I said, " Cool, you should go and be with him." And, I left it at that. No sense in getting all worked up. The ass kicker is, now she feels all guilty, walking around and not saying anything. Ah, I tell you fellas, being cool about situations like this, gives meaning to SoSuave (hence the name).
Exactly what I said. You were not suave, just stupid.youngwilliam said:what the **** is that supposed to mean?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
OH THANK GOD! Someone else finally gets it.pimpaholicskip said:how bout u stop overanalyzing and enjoy life
she friended him just for attention
I think not caring that its facebook and she ain't fvcking him in real life is what is important. You got to be able to trust your girl, she could be in a club with her girls or in a resturant and she could run into her ex and yes she is going to politley talk to him just like you would if you run into yours ( unless its your thing to avoid and run the other direction then be my guest).youngwilliam said:Like it was mentioned, she has no biz with her ex (or at least I thought). What the h&44 can you can do in a situation like thst? I think being non-confrontational is the best recourse.......
Eternal said:OH THANK GOD! Someone else finally gets it.
William, are you planning on analyzing you gf's every move?
"Oh man, she talked to the gas station attendant and they went to high school together...Better talk to her about that!"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.