"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Found my girl contacting her ex on Facebook!!!!!

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And yes, I'm excited! Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend. Foul play, correct?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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youngwilliam said:
And yes, I'm excited! Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend. Foul play, correct?
Thats not a good sign. I wouldnt like it. What business does she have with an ex boyfriend if your her boyfriend?. If youve been looking for a way out of the relationship, here's your excuse.
 

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it's not rare for a girl to end a relationship with someone and continue being friends with them, and that's exactly what this could be. It's a different story if they have had no contact until now.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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youngwilliam said:
Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend.
Well if he's dead that's okay, but since he's probably not that means she's going to end up contacting him at some point and you shouldn't be happy about that.
 

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Kind of hard to say whether its foul play or not.

Some chicks just insist on keeping friendly with the old flames.

Sometimes its innocent, usually its not.

You kind of have to filter your selection of chicks meaning for what you want out of one when you're just beginning with her by playfully questioning them about male friendships.

If the answer is she likes to have a lot of male friends and thats not what you want out of a chick and makes you feel uncomfortable then you must NEXT.

So it could possibly be a beginning sign of disrespect towards you.

Hmmm, she been acting different towards you lately other than this?
 

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KontrollerX said:
Kind of hard to say whether its foul play or not.

Could be a beginning sign of disrespect towards you.

Hmmm, she been acting different towards you lately other than this?
You bet your azz its foul play. Let her find out He's contacting an Ex of his and you will see the hell she will try to give him about "Why are you talking to your ex?" . Trust me man, this is never a good sign. this is her former "Fvck" and she has no business contacting when she has a B/F right now.
 

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You guys are stupid as hell.

"Oh my god, she saw her ex on facebook and added him!"

BFD! EVERYONE adds their ex usually. The more you wonder if she is cheating, the more likely she will be. Why? BECAUSE YOU ARE INSECURE.
 

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No, no different behavior. I just asked a dumb question, " Who is **&^&&:" And she said, " Oh, I used to date him, but that was a long time ago". So, I said, " Cool, you should go and be with him." And, I left it at that. No sense in getting all worked up. The ass kicker is, now she feels all guilty, walking around and not saying anything. Ah, I tell you fellas, being cool about situations like this, gives meaning to SoSuave (hence the name).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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youngwilliam said:
No, no different behavior. I just asked a dumb question, " Who is **&^&&:" And she said, " Oh, I used to date him, but that was a long time ago". So, I said, " Cool, you should go and be with him." And, I left it at that. No sense in getting all worked up. The ass kicker is, now she feels all guilty, walking around and not saying anything. Ah, I tell you fellas, being cool about situations like this, gives meaning to SoSuave (hence the name).
That's not suave, that's just stupid.
 

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youngwilliam said:
what the **** is that supposed to mean?
Exactly what I said. You were not suave, just stupid.

HOW is it suave to tell a girl "oh, you should go and be with him" in a situation like that? I mean, if she cheated, yeah, go tell her that. But since you asked who it was and she replied, your reply/comeback was just...Well, stupid. It was not ****y. It was not funny. It was not suave.

You obviously have a long way to go. Only a few people in this thread have it right. Those being:

Sadao, TheVirtualMind, and IceCream.
 

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Like it was mentioned, she has no biz with her ex (or at least I thought). What the h&44 can you can do in a situation like thst? I think being non-confrontational is the best recourse.......
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pimpaholicskip said:
how bout u stop overanalyzing and enjoy life

she friended him just for attention
OH THANK GOD! Someone else finally gets it.

William, are you planning on analyzing you gf's every move?

"Oh man, she talked to the gas station attendant and they went to high school together...Better talk to her about that!"
 

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youngwilliam said:
Like it was mentioned, she has no biz with her ex (or at least I thought). What the h&44 can you can do in a situation like thst? I think being non-confrontational is the best recourse.......
I think not caring that its facebook and she ain't fvcking him in real life is what is important. You got to be able to trust your girl, she could be in a club with her girls or in a resturant and she could run into her ex and yes she is going to politley talk to him just like you would if you run into yours ( unless its your thing to avoid and run the other direction then be my guest).

Remember he is an ex for a reason, you are right now running the show and if she runs back to him it is because:

a) She never lost feelings for him and you were always just a sitting duck.
b) Your played a poor game and lowered her interest.

Unless she meets up with him in the real world, treat facebook as nothing.
 
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Eternal said:
OH THANK GOD! Someone else finally gets it.

William, are you planning on analyzing you gf's every move?

"Oh man, she talked to the gas station attendant and they went to high school together...Better talk to her about that!"

im glad someone else get's how to act like a man
 

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Oh you kids and your silly dating rituals. All of a sudden adding an ex to an internet social circle is "foul play". This is the de evolution of the player at it's finest.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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