youngwilliam
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And yes, I'm excited! Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend. Foul play, correct?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thats not a good sign. I wouldnt like it. What business does she have with an ex boyfriend if your her boyfriend?. If youve been looking for a way out of the relationship, here's your excuse.youngwilliam said:And yes, I'm excited! Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend. Foul play, correct?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well if he's dead that's okay, but since he's probably not that means she's going to end up contacting him at some point and you shouldn't be happy about that.youngwilliam said:Well, not really contacting him, just adding him as a friend.
You bet your azz its foul play. Let her find out He's contacting an Ex of his and you will see the hell she will try to give him about "Why are you talking to your ex?" . Trust me man, this is never a good sign. this is her former "Fvck" and she has no business contacting when she has a B/F right now.KontrollerX said:Kind of hard to say whether its foul play or not.
Could be a beginning sign of disrespect towards you.
Hmmm, she been acting different towards you lately other than this?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That's not suave, that's just stupid.youngwilliam said:No, no different behavior. I just asked a dumb question, " Who is **&^&&:" And she said, " Oh, I used to date him, but that was a long time ago". So, I said, " Cool, you should go and be with him." And, I left it at that. No sense in getting all worked up. The ass kicker is, now she feels all guilty, walking around and not saying anything. Ah, I tell you fellas, being cool about situations like this, gives meaning to SoSuave (hence the name).
Exactly what I said. You were not suave, just stupid.youngwilliam said:what the **** is that supposed to mean?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
OH THANK GOD! Someone else finally gets it.pimpaholicskip said:how bout u stop overanalyzing and enjoy life
she friended him just for attention
I think not caring that its facebook and she ain't fvcking him in real life is what is important. You got to be able to trust your girl, she could be in a club with her girls or in a resturant and she could run into her ex and yes she is going to politley talk to him just like you would if you run into yours ( unless its your thing to avoid and run the other direction then be my guest).youngwilliam said:Like it was mentioned, she has no biz with her ex (or at least I thought). What the h&44 can you can do in a situation like thst? I think being non-confrontational is the best recourse.......
Eternal said:OH THANK GOD! Someone else finally gets it.
William, are you planning on analyzing you gf's every move?
"Oh man, she talked to the gas station attendant and they went to high school together...Better talk to her about that!"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.