You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The tom leykis show. Here's a great forum: www.leykisonline.com/ .PJD said:I was wondering if anybody knew of a forum similar to the DJ forum, but for girls. There have to be tons of lonely girls looking for advice to turn their situation around. It would be interesting to see in to the women's psyche.
Wait a minute. Do you think that women actually are looking for solutions when they log onto forms like this. Have you ever been to the iVillage forum? It's a Oprah fest. The advice that they get is geared toward landing a "nice guy" (AFC). Given that it's interesting when you understand a woman's psycho (er, psyche), but do you really want plan your strategy based on the ideas of women that are basically AFCs?PJD said:I was wondering if anybody knew of a forum similar to the DJ forum, but for girls. There have to be tons of lonely girls looking for advice to turn their situation around. It would be interesting to see in to the women's psyche.
I didn't know that his site was for women.Call_Me_Daddy said:The tom leykis show. Here's a great forum: www.leykisonline.com/ .
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Its not. But she can learn something about how men think.. plus theres more women there than on this forum.Francisco d'Anconia said:I didn't know that his site was for women.
No offense but you come off as a bit of a simplistic tard. Just my opinion.Call_Me_Daddy said:The tom leykis show. Here's a great forum: www.leykisonline.com/ .
And a little tip for you. You are lonely because you are either ugly, or overweight. Guys do not aspire to get fatties. Doesn't matter how much money you have or what a great personality you have. Guys will only settle for you if you are fat or ugly because they could not get hotter chicks.
Just ask.
Every guy wants a hot chick... but they will settle for what they can get sometimes.
Hell, I was just going to say that PJD just wanted information from a woman's point of view. Plus I don't think he was looking for yet another dating site for men.Scrumtulescence said:No offense but you come off as a bit of a simplistic tard. Just my opinion.
1. PJD is not a girl.
2. Not every physically attractive girl has an easy dating life.
3. Tom Leykis? WTF?
-edit- and no, not every guy thinks like Tom Leykis.
And you come across as a patronizing crab wallowing in the grey area of "complexity".Scrumtulescence said:No offense but you come off as a bit of a simplistic tard. Just my opinion.
1. Who cares hes asking useless chump questions whats the difference? . "where do chicks go to self improve"1. PJD is not a girl.
2. True, you wouldnt believe the sh!t guys like me can get away with, but bozos like you will always be there to pick up the pieces and tell us all how hard hotties have it.2. Not every physically attractive girl has an easy dating life.
3. Clearly.3. Tom Leykis? WTF?
-edit- and no, not every guy thinks like Tom Leykis
That's news to me. All a hot girl has to do is walk into a bar half-naked and she won't have a hard time finding anyone to get laid with. Unless she wants more than sex, which in America is a bizarre notion!Scrumtulescence said:2. Not every physically attractive girl has an easy dating life.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No, they don't. A girl that could land pretty much any guy she wants? What's so easy about that?diplomatic_lies said:That's news to me. All a hot girl has to do is walk into a bar half-naked and she won't have a hard time finding anyone to get laid with. Unless she wants more than sex, which in America is a bizarre notion!
check cosmos websitePJD said:I was wondering if anybody knew of a forum similar to the DJ forum, but for girls. There have to be tons of lonely girls looking for advice to turn their situation around. It would be interesting to see in to the women's psyche.
How's that?( . )( . ) said:The irony in Call me daddy's post is unreal even if it wasnt in jest.