Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I know it's mutual, but I have savored drawing it out and not telling her. We have been together about 4-5 months.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
For LTR, when do you say 'I love you?'
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
After you kiss on the altar.
"...You may kiss the bride."
*kisses*
V: *leans in to whisper in ear* "I love you."
Yeah... I had to vote "never".
"...You may kiss the bride."
*kisses*
V: *leans in to whisper in ear* "I love you."
Yeah... I had to vote "never".
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
7 months in, after she'd already said it 200 times.
Mind_Body_Soul
Senior Don Juan
It doesn't matter as long as it's AFTER she says it first. The longer you wait the better.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
Well, since I'm never going to be standing on an altar, never.
I'm probably never getting married, and if I did, it would be in Vegas... baby. ('Cuz the chick I'd marry wouldn't settle for anything less than a Vegas wedding, of course.)
So, in a Vegas wedding, I wouldn't whisper that mush. :nono: I'd whisper something more like "let's go get lucky little darlin'" in an Elvis voice. Followed by: "can we hit the roulette table and the way up to the room?"
:rockon:
Dare to dream.
I'm probably never getting married, and if I did, it would be in Vegas... baby. ('Cuz the chick I'd marry wouldn't settle for anything less than a Vegas wedding, of course.)
So, in a Vegas wedding, I wouldn't whisper that mush. :nono: I'd whisper something more like "let's go get lucky little darlin'" in an Elvis voice. Followed by: "can we hit the roulette table and the way up to the room?"
:rockon:
Dare to dream.
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
LOL!
And here I was always taught that you should always tell a woman "I love you" in a DEAD or almost FORGOTTEN language like MAYAN or ARAMAIC----you know, or ANY other language used in a movie directed by Mel Gibson...:rockon:
And here I was always taught that you should always tell a woman "I love you" in a DEAD or almost FORGOTTEN language like MAYAN or ARAMAIC----you know, or ANY other language used in a movie directed by Mel Gibson...:rockon:
I’m sure we’ve all had chicks say it to us after a week or something. I remember thinking, like WTF, “…do you realize I have not even changed my underwear the entire time I’ve known you”.
Any overused phrase essentially becomes meaningless. The only time WE should say it is only AFTER she says it and only one tenth of times she does.
Oh, yeah, for effect, never say it as an immediate response to her saying it, and, when you do say it, make it random, out of the blue, not just after you boned her.
Any overused phrase essentially becomes meaningless. The only time WE should say it is only AFTER she says it and only one tenth of times she does.
Oh, yeah, for effect, never say it as an immediate response to her saying it, and, when you do say it, make it random, out of the blue, not just after you boned her.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
not just after you boned her.
but damnit, I've always just boned her. Maybe that's what I love about her
but damnit, I've always just boned her. Maybe that's what I love about her
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
when you feel like it
bigjohnson
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I don't let her expect it. Sometimes I'll say "Yeah, I'm a lovable sorta person", or "and who could blame you really?" in a funny way. Then once in a while I'll get all serious and say it back.
If you make it unexpected there is a higher addiction factor.
Look at the experiments with mice and the reward machine to see how it works.
If you make it unexpected there is a higher addiction factor.
Look at the experiments with mice and the reward machine to see how it works.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
STR8UP said:
Good advice. She ended up saying it first. I will remember to use it sparingly.
X-Man
Don Juan
I said it recently after a few months when I was in the ****. Got me out of it and I have hardly said it ever again even tho she does all the time, as it should be.