Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I know it's mutual, but I have savored drawing it out and not telling her. We have been together about 4-5 months.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
For LTR, when do you say 'I love you?'
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
After you kiss on the altar.
"...You may kiss the bride."
*kisses*
V: *leans in to whisper in ear* "I love you."
Yeah... I had to vote "never".
"...You may kiss the bride."
*kisses*
V: *leans in to whisper in ear* "I love you."
Yeah... I had to vote "never".
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
7 months in, after she'd already said it 200 times.
Mind_Body_Soul
Senior Don Juan
It doesn't matter as long as it's AFTER she says it first. The longer you wait the better.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
Well, since I'm never going to be standing on an altar, never.
I'm probably never getting married, and if I did, it would be in Vegas... baby. ('Cuz the chick I'd marry wouldn't settle for anything less than a Vegas wedding, of course.)
So, in a Vegas wedding, I wouldn't whisper that mush. :nono: I'd whisper something more like "let's go get lucky little darlin'" in an Elvis voice. Followed by: "can we hit the roulette table and the way up to the room?"
:rockon:
Dare to dream.
I'm probably never getting married, and if I did, it would be in Vegas... baby. ('Cuz the chick I'd marry wouldn't settle for anything less than a Vegas wedding, of course.)
So, in a Vegas wedding, I wouldn't whisper that mush. :nono: I'd whisper something more like "let's go get lucky little darlin'" in an Elvis voice. Followed by: "can we hit the roulette table and the way up to the room?"
:rockon:
Dare to dream.
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
LOL!
And here I was always taught that you should always tell a woman "I love you" in a DEAD or almost FORGOTTEN language like MAYAN or ARAMAIC----you know, or ANY other language used in a movie directed by Mel Gibson...:rockon:
And here I was always taught that you should always tell a woman "I love you" in a DEAD or almost FORGOTTEN language like MAYAN or ARAMAIC----you know, or ANY other language used in a movie directed by Mel Gibson...:rockon:
I’m sure we’ve all had chicks say it to us after a week or something. I remember thinking, like WTF, “…do you realize I have not even changed my underwear the entire time I’ve known you”.
Any overused phrase essentially becomes meaningless. The only time WE should say it is only AFTER she says it and only one tenth of times she does.
Oh, yeah, for effect, never say it as an immediate response to her saying it, and, when you do say it, make it random, out of the blue, not just after you boned her.
Any overused phrase essentially becomes meaningless. The only time WE should say it is only AFTER she says it and only one tenth of times she does.
Oh, yeah, for effect, never say it as an immediate response to her saying it, and, when you do say it, make it random, out of the blue, not just after you boned her.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
not just after you boned her.
but damnit, I've always just boned her. Maybe that's what I love about her
but damnit, I've always just boned her. Maybe that's what I love about her
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
when you feel like it
bigjohnson
Master Don Juan
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I don't let her expect it. Sometimes I'll say "Yeah, I'm a lovable sorta person", or "and who could blame you really?" in a funny way. Then once in a while I'll get all serious and say it back.
If you make it unexpected there is a higher addiction factor.
Look at the experiments with mice and the reward machine to see how it works.
If you make it unexpected there is a higher addiction factor.
Look at the experiments with mice and the reward machine to see how it works.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
STR8UP said:
Good advice. She ended up saying it first. I will remember to use it sparingly.
X-Man
Don Juan
I said it recently after a few months when I was in the ****. Got me out of it and I have hardly said it ever again even tho she does all the time, as it should be.