Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Big Pappy

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It's been a good while since I made a foolish choice.

I suppose I was due.

I went to a Christmas party hosted by a bartender that I apparently have helped to support in grand fashion. A dusk til dawn sort of affair. There were plenty of girls, but none were giving any signs of interest at all, except one. Got her number, then after meeting a few more people, left for home.

I was seriously drunk. So, I pulled over in this parking lot, which by chance had a bar located next door. So, I went in. Too tired and drunk to care, I ordered a beer just for show and a water.

Then I meet this little hot number. She is one of three hotties in the bar. One is the bartender, this one and another one.

Three steps. A glance, stance and an advance.

An hour later, she's in my bed. So, it ends up she's still here. Dead to the world passed out. I've got sh*t to do today! Why in the world did I bring her here?! Big mistake! I drove her here, which means I can't just toss her out, I've got to take her somewhere, which means more delay.

For those of you fellas that strike out, count your blessings. At least you can get stuff done! This girl wanted to drink all night, even while I was banging her. Weirdest experience ever! If I wasn't so trashed myself, I'd feel guilty.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wake her a## up and throw her a 20 for the cab ride home.

By the way - when you wake up - you should wake her a## up.
 

Big Pappy

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Comatose, my man. Slapped her ass and it just jiggled slightly.
 

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If you're looking for sympathy, Big Pappy, don't go looking here ;)

You got laid. Stop your complaining already.

Men! You all never cease to amaze me.
 

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Why was it foolish?

Everyone needs some lovin' from time to time, even if it's just for one night.

One time I let a ONS spend the next day running errands with me and it wasn't so bad. Otherwise, yeah, spot her a couple 20's and get her a cab.

Slapped her ass and it just jiggled slightly.
At least it didn't cause your roof to collapse :)

Men! You all never cease to amaze me.
We never cease to amaze ourselves!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Don't mean to preach to ya but.......

What the fawk are you doing driving home pissed drunk you d!ckhead?


That is a Foolish Choice.
 

Big Pappy

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Absolutely correct! Not my typical behavior on any count.
 

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Dude, been there before, nothing like waking up and wishing you could get the hell outta there.
 

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Originally posted by Squid
Dude, been there before, nothing like waking up and wishing you could get the hell outta there.
So, is gettind laid worth that "I feel like a trapped animal" feeling you get afterwords?
 

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Originally posted by Eileen
So, is gettind laid worth that "I feel like a trapped animal" feeling you get afterwords?
It's the whole "getting caught up in the moment" thing, followed by the "what the hell was I thinking". Don't tell me that this has never happened to you before.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by Squid
It's the whole "getting caught up in the moment" thing, followed by the "what the hell was I thinking". Don't tell me that this has never happened to you before.
No it has happend to me, but after I always think it wasn't worth it. I'm just wondering if men are the same way.
 

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Originally posted by Eileen
No it has happend to me, but after I always think it wasn't worth it. I'm just wondering if men are the same way.
I am anyway, if your regretting it the next day then it definitely wasn't worth it.
 
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