"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just to recap, chick from a place I do work at randomly adds me on fb. Talk a little, go out and make out that night, she messages as soon as she got home saying she had a great time then next day she goes silent.

Thursday I saw her working and she looked very depressed or disappointed. Sent a message asking her what’s up and didn’t really get much of an answer. Told her if she’s free on the weekend let me know, can get together and get her mind off whatever. No response. Friday she posts something like “omg what a night!” With a bunch of hearts. At that point I’m taking the hint and I’m over it.

Weird thing to me is she still likes a post I make on Sunday, and is always watching my stories right away. Have a date lined up with another chick on Saturday, but this one I just really don’t get at all.

Just curious on what you guys think is going on with her. She sought me out on fb and our date went pretty good, thinking she’s just seeing someone else but isn’t sure where that’s gunna go so still keeping tabs on me. Thoughts?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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backseatjuan said:
You should dck them the first night.
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hindsight ya I probably should have. Pretty sure she was down and that might be all she was looking for idk. After dinner she got home and messaged that we could have gone to a bar. Sunday night and knowing we both had working in the morning I wasn’t thinking that direction at all
 
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dk1990S111 said:
Just to recap, chick from a place I do work at randomly adds me on fb. Talk a little, go out and make out that night, she messages as soon as she got home saying she had a great time then next day she goes silent.

Thursday I saw her working and she looked very depressed or disappointed. Sent a message asking her what’s up and didn’t really get much of an answer. Told her if she’s free on the weekend let me know, can get together and get her mind off whatever. No response. Friday she posts something like “omg what a night!” With a bunch of hearts. At that point I’m taking the hint and I’m over it.

Weird thing to me is she still likes a post I make on Sunday, and is always watching my stories right away. Have a date lined up with another chick on Saturday, but this one I just really don’t get at all.

Just curious on what you guys think is going on with her. She sought me out on fb and our date went pretty good, thinking she’s just seeing someone else but isn’t sure where that’s gunna go so still keeping tabs on me. Thoughts?
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You validated her. You fed her ego. Then when she was riding the high of the ego boost you gave her, pursued the guy she wanted and "omg what a night." Lots of hearts was the results. AKA, dude facked her and you didnt

Next. Focus on your future dates, this one blew her chance with you. She gets nothing from you moving forward. And take the advice of a previous answer, stop dating coworkers
 
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dk1990S111 said:
hindsight ya I probably should have. Pretty sure she was down and that might be all she was looking for idk. After dinner she got home and messaged that we could have gone to a bar. Sunday night and knowing we both had working in the morning I wasn’t thinking that direction at all
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She pretty much told you "Why didn't you fvck me?"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dude99 said:
You validated her. You fed her ego. Then when she was riding the high of the ego boost you gave her, pursued the guy she wanted and "omg what a night." Lots of hearts was the results. AKA, dude facked her and you didnt

Next. Focus on your future dates, this one blew her chance with you. She gets nothing from you moving forward. And take the advice of a previous answer, stop dating coworkers
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This is precisely it.
 
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