Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Follow up on LTR break up

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bussey

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Sad story bro. I feel ya.

Only thing I can say is, Move On...

I know thats the last thing most want after a breakup with a LTR, but its for the best man...

Chances are she will do one of two things.

1. She comes back, but the relationships lasts max 3 months. LEading to another time of sadness etc for you.

2. She doesn't come back, she likes her freedom to do what she wants with whoever without responding to anyone.

Once again soory man!
 

oda

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if you really like her, accept that she won't always be around now while you have the opportunity to, then when she comes crawling back use her to your advantage
 

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She just called...we talked for about 30 minutes. She wanted to know what I was thinking so I let her have it. When I called her out on "friends=not interested sexually" she said it's obvious that she's still attracted to me but she's just overwhelemed and confused . Said she didn't know what she wanted. We then just shot **** for a while...she seemed pretty sad/down the entire time.

And for me to call her back as soon as I got home :confused:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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Originally posted by PoppedCollars
She just called...we talked for about 30 minutes. She wanted to know what I was thinking so I let her have it. When I called her out on "friends=not interested sexually" she said it's obvious that she's still attracted to me but she's just overwhelemed and confused . Said she didn't know what she wanted. We then just shot **** for a while...she seemed pretty sad/down the entire time.

And for me to call her back as soon as I got home :confused:
Overwhelmed and confused is basically ******** for saying, "I'm no longer interested in you, but I want to make it look like I'm complicated so I don't come off as a *****, which I probably am."
 

Desdinova

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A story about two women *trying* to break up.

I ask her about whenever she *is* erady to commit, will I be the guy.
That's nice. You're gonna wait around for her, even though you were the one who decided to end it the night before.

She says she wants to live life alone for a little bit...
In other words, she'll be dating again after she's finished with you. She's trying to let you down nicely. Women enjoy letting their emotions fade away when they get out of relationship. They can't handle sudden endings because they hate stewing in their emotions. You're just giving into the slow ending of this relationship because you don't like the emotional pain either.

I have a feeling that when she comes back she'll want to get together again...
Cut contact with her completely. Trust me, if you don't cut all contact, it's going to get worse and take even longer to get better. She'll be fvcking another guy in no time, and you'll be waiting for her to want a LTR with you. Time heals all wounds.
 

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I consider all breakups permanent and it's up to the woman to crawl back to me. It's okay if she doesn't, cause I'll go for other women.
 

Kaine

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You obviously need to be fcuked in the a$$ with the reality stick, I don't think anything but massive traumatic pain is going wake you up. You already knew what to do, but instead you grew a pu$$y.

You crashed and in her eyes became a whimpering supplicative wussy girl. I was right, you didn't need your stuff, the ulterior motive I predicted was there.

Lets reiterate from the point where it all goes to stinky sh1t so others don't follow suit. Walking away was good, these were not::

a) He calls back at the club to "talk" straight after he gets home. Desperate.

b) He makes an appointment to "get his stuff" Smells desperate.

c) He brought a frikkin flower when getting his stuff?! Reaking of desperation

d) He apologizes. Crown this king of desperation.

e) He has a "discussion", more like "Please tell me why you don't like me, here are my balls". Falls off desperation scale

f) He rewards her with kisses and cuddles. Desperation has now achieved apocalyptic levels.

g) Obsess and plan for the Winter over this girl. Proceeds to step into purgatory.

Her telling you indirectly she wants to keep you as a emotional tampon and backup while she sleeps around? Priceless.

Thanks for sharing so others don't make the same mistakes.

Alright enjoy the pain.

Kaine
 
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