"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Follow up on LTR break up

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bussey

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Sad story bro. I feel ya.

Only thing I can say is, Move On...

I know thats the last thing most want after a breakup with a LTR, but its for the best man...

Chances are she will do one of two things.

1. She comes back, but the relationships lasts max 3 months. LEading to another time of sadness etc for you.

2. She doesn't come back, she likes her freedom to do what she wants with whoever without responding to anyone.

Once again soory man!
 

oda

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if you really like her, accept that she won't always be around now while you have the opportunity to, then when she comes crawling back use her to your advantage
 

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She just called...we talked for about 30 minutes. She wanted to know what I was thinking so I let her have it. When I called her out on "friends=not interested sexually" she said it's obvious that she's still attracted to me but she's just overwhelemed and confused . Said she didn't know what she wanted. We then just shot **** for a while...she seemed pretty sad/down the entire time.

And for me to call her back as soon as I got home :confused:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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Originally posted by PoppedCollars
She just called...we talked for about 30 minutes. She wanted to know what I was thinking so I let her have it. When I called her out on "friends=not interested sexually" she said it's obvious that she's still attracted to me but she's just overwhelemed and confused . Said she didn't know what she wanted. We then just shot **** for a while...she seemed pretty sad/down the entire time.

And for me to call her back as soon as I got home :confused:
Overwhelmed and confused is basically ******** for saying, "I'm no longer interested in you, but I want to make it look like I'm complicated so I don't come off as a *****, which I probably am."
 

Desdinova

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A story about two women *trying* to break up.

I ask her about whenever she *is* erady to commit, will I be the guy.
That's nice. You're gonna wait around for her, even though you were the one who decided to end it the night before.

She says she wants to live life alone for a little bit...
In other words, she'll be dating again after she's finished with you. She's trying to let you down nicely. Women enjoy letting their emotions fade away when they get out of relationship. They can't handle sudden endings because they hate stewing in their emotions. You're just giving into the slow ending of this relationship because you don't like the emotional pain either.

I have a feeling that when she comes back she'll want to get together again...
Cut contact with her completely. Trust me, if you don't cut all contact, it's going to get worse and take even longer to get better. She'll be fvcking another guy in no time, and you'll be waiting for her to want a LTR with you. Time heals all wounds.
 

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I consider all breakups permanent and it's up to the woman to crawl back to me. It's okay if she doesn't, cause I'll go for other women.
 

Kaine

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You obviously need to be fcuked in the a$$ with the reality stick, I don't think anything but massive traumatic pain is going wake you up. You already knew what to do, but instead you grew a pu$$y.

You crashed and in her eyes became a whimpering supplicative wussy girl. I was right, you didn't need your stuff, the ulterior motive I predicted was there.

Lets reiterate from the point where it all goes to stinky sh1t so others don't follow suit. Walking away was good, these were not::

a) He calls back at the club to "talk" straight after he gets home. Desperate.

b) He makes an appointment to "get his stuff" Smells desperate.

c) He brought a frikkin flower when getting his stuff?! Reaking of desperation

d) He apologizes. Crown this king of desperation.

e) He has a "discussion", more like "Please tell me why you don't like me, here are my balls". Falls off desperation scale

f) He rewards her with kisses and cuddles. Desperation has now achieved apocalyptic levels.

g) Obsess and plan for the Winter over this girl. Proceeds to step into purgatory.

Her telling you indirectly she wants to keep you as a emotional tampon and backup while she sleeps around? Priceless.

Thanks for sharing so others don't make the same mistakes.

Alright enjoy the pain.

Kaine
 
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