Hi guys...I am getting lots of flritatious behaviour from women, especially in the eye contact (lots of intense looks and then submissive behaviour) but cannot seem to close numbers...I am 45 and in really good shape both physically and mentally...any ideas to what is going on...I am just a little confused.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Flirting confusion
- Thread starter Flatnose
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Can you be more specific? Are you approaching these women and what kind of signals are you getting?Flatnose said:Hi guys...I am getting lots of flritatious behaviour from women, especially in the eye contact (lots of intense looks and then submissive behaviour) but cannot seem to close numbers...I am 45 and in really good shape both physically and mentally...any ideas to what is going on...I am just a little confused.
BTW Im also 45 and in great shape.
Casual approaches, one was a woman at work another a barmaid where I regularly drink. Really cool sexual tension deep lingering eye contact then dropped eyes, they initiate contact then seem to back off when I suggest coffee or getting there number. Its doing my head in!gaspipe said:Can you be more specific? Are you approaching these women and what kind of signals are you getting?
BTW Im also 45 and in great shape.
Flatnose said:Casual approaches, one was a woman at work another a barmaid where I regularly drink. Really cool sexual tension deep lingering eye contact then dropped eyes, they initiate contact then seem to back off when I suggest coffee or getting there number. Its doing my head in!
If they dont give you the digits its not a good sign. These women may well be attracted to you at some level but most likely they are either committed to someone else or are just seeking some type of validation or are just bored and feel like flirting (some women are just flirtatious by nature).
Bottom line if a woman is truly interested she will be responsive to your advances.
Aye...had better get more approaches in then!gaspipe said:If they dont give you the digits its not a good sign. These women may well be attracted to you at some level but most likely they are either committed to someone else or are just seeking some type of validation or are just bored and feel like flirting (some women are just flirtatious by nature).
Bottom line if a woman is truly interested she will be responsive to your advances.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thats the spirit! When all is said and done it really is a numbers game. Its only a matter of time youll strike gold if you keep plugging away! (no pun intended).Flatnose said:Aye...had better get more approaches in then!