Hi guys...I am getting lots of flritatious behaviour from women, especially in the eye contact (lots of intense looks and then submissive behaviour) but cannot seem to close numbers...I am 45 and in really good shape both physically and mentally...any ideas to what is going on...I am just a little confused.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Flirting confusion
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Can you be more specific? Are you approaching these women and what kind of signals are you getting?Flatnose said:Hi guys...I am getting lots of flritatious behaviour from women, especially in the eye contact (lots of intense looks and then submissive behaviour) but cannot seem to close numbers...I am 45 and in really good shape both physically and mentally...any ideas to what is going on...I am just a little confused.
BTW Im also 45 and in great shape.
Casual approaches, one was a woman at work another a barmaid where I regularly drink. Really cool sexual tension deep lingering eye contact then dropped eyes, they initiate contact then seem to back off when I suggest coffee or getting there number. Its doing my head in!gaspipe said:Can you be more specific? Are you approaching these women and what kind of signals are you getting?
BTW Im also 45 and in great shape.
Flatnose said:Casual approaches, one was a woman at work another a barmaid where I regularly drink. Really cool sexual tension deep lingering eye contact then dropped eyes, they initiate contact then seem to back off when I suggest coffee or getting there number. Its doing my head in!
If they dont give you the digits its not a good sign. These women may well be attracted to you at some level but most likely they are either committed to someone else or are just seeking some type of validation or are just bored and feel like flirting (some women are just flirtatious by nature).
Bottom line if a woman is truly interested she will be responsive to your advances.
Aye...had better get more approaches in then!gaspipe said:If they dont give you the digits its not a good sign. These women may well be attracted to you at some level but most likely they are either committed to someone else or are just seeking some type of validation or are just bored and feel like flirting (some women are just flirtatious by nature).
Bottom line if a woman is truly interested she will be responsive to your advances.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Thats the spirit! When all is said and done it really is a numbers game. Its only a matter of time youll strike gold if you keep plugging away! (no pun intended).Flatnose said:Aye...had better get more approaches in then!